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Tuesday, November 21, 2006
Dating services and member pictures
When you join an online dating service, having good pictures will be a big plus. Match.com says your odds of getting contacted increase dramatically if you have pictures, and I believe them. I never even bother checking women without pictures.
But my experiences over the last two weeks has caused me to make some observations about pictures:
Studio Pictures: If you’re searching, coming across studio pictures is quite common. I’ve found that studio pictures show the person in a much more favorable way than everyday pictures. When there’s a combination of studio pictures and other photos, I have never found the person to look as good as the studio picture. So, if they only have a studio picture, I get skeptical.
Old pictures: Within my age group, it makes quite a different if a picture was taken in the last year or so versus 10 years ago. The other day I found a picture that was from 12 years ago (I could tell by the date on the picture). Come on! No one looks now like they did 12 years ago. So becareful with people who look much younger than their age.
Far away pictures: many people post lots of pictures but they are all from far away. Um… that raises a red flag to me.
Male cut out from the picture: I see lots of pictures of women where a male was cut out from the picture, but you can still see his hand around her waist or shoulder. Please! Take new pictures. I know that at my age every woman has had relationships, but I don’t want to be so vividly reminded. But there’s two things that really concern me about such pictures: one, if the pictures are recent, that means the woman hasn’t been away from the relationship long enough for me to want to get involved with her; or if the has been divorced for a while, those pictures are too old. Either way I look at it, it’s a bad sign.
Tags: dating, singles
But my experiences over the last two weeks has caused me to make some observations about pictures:
Studio Pictures: If you’re searching, coming across studio pictures is quite common. I’ve found that studio pictures show the person in a much more favorable way than everyday pictures. When there’s a combination of studio pictures and other photos, I have never found the person to look as good as the studio picture. So, if they only have a studio picture, I get skeptical.
Old pictures: Within my age group, it makes quite a different if a picture was taken in the last year or so versus 10 years ago. The other day I found a picture that was from 12 years ago (I could tell by the date on the picture). Come on! No one looks now like they did 12 years ago. So becareful with people who look much younger than their age.
Far away pictures: many people post lots of pictures but they are all from far away. Um… that raises a red flag to me.
Male cut out from the picture: I see lots of pictures of women where a male was cut out from the picture, but you can still see his hand around her waist or shoulder. Please! Take new pictures. I know that at my age every woman has had relationships, but I don’t want to be so vividly reminded. But there’s two things that really concern me about such pictures: one, if the pictures are recent, that means the woman hasn’t been away from the relationship long enough for me to want to get involved with her; or if the has been divorced for a while, those pictures are too old. Either way I look at it, it’s a bad sign.
Tags: dating, singles
