Hannah, 16, from Kansas asks:

Oh so this guy and I went on a date, and it wasn't bad, there was definatally chemistry. So he sent me text messages and I sent him some we had great conversations. BUT we never really talked in person. I didn't know (but found out later) that my friend talked to his best friend and she said that he is definitely interested in me but he is just shy. So I began a few convo's (text messaging) On Wednesday I began one and later on he said we should hang out on Friday and go see a movie, he said he'd call me. Well Friday rolled around and, no call. So around 6pm I texted and asked if we were still doing something the conversation went as follows: me: hey do you still wanna do something tonight. him: well I haven't really heard of anything going on tonight. me:ok so...are we not doing anything? him: well I don't know I'll call some people and then I'll call you. me: ok cool. About 45 minutes passed. me: if it would be easier we could just go see a movie or something. him: sorry but I don't get paid till Monday. me: oh well if that's the problem I'll pay or we could just do something some other time. him: ok we'll hang out some other time. so...what's the deal? Is he still interested? Please tell me, truthfully, I'm desperate I don't know whether I should make the next move or wait for him

Victor's advice:

As I was reading your submission I was convinced that he just wasn't interested in you, but once he said he just didn't have the money, I was inclined to give him the benefit of the doubt. I can totally understand how he could be embarrassed that he didn't have the money. That's a much bigger issue for most guys than you can imagine. And you offering to pay wouldn't help either.

I say try it one more time and invite him to something that's totally free. But if gives you the run-around again, then you have to take the hint that he simply isn't interested in you and doesn't have the courage to tell you.


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