Monday, October 23, 2006
Long Distance Visit
Mary, 28
Asks:
Hello, I have read your advice on long distance dating and it seems to have worked out fine with you. I am kinda in a long distance relationship now. I met the guy online and he lives across the ocean. We are planning to meet in his country and I am just curious what you did with your bf at the first time meeting?
I am little nervous to meet and spend a week with someone I've never known. Would it be weird for us to stay in separate rooms? Or should we spend time together in the same room, so we have more time to get to know each other??
Please advise.. not sure what I should and need to do to make it work out fine. thanks!
Lee's Thoughts:
In MY case, the first thing I did was bang his brains out. HOWEVER, we had known each other for three years before our three years of long distance even began.
So, in YOUR case, you should DEFINITELY book your own room for the ENTIRE WEEK. I'm sure you think you know this guy, but you don't. He could be prince charming or he could be an axe murderer. You don't want to take that chance. If he is prince charming, he will have no problems whatsoever with you preferring to stay in a separate room. In fact, he will RESPECT the way you take care of yourself and observe the fact that you are not crossing the ocean simply for some booty. This will convey the strong statement that you want to get to know him on a deeper level then just sex.
You should be nervous. That's what self-preservation feels like. You need to ensure that you have a place to stay in case he turns out to be a complete ass and you are left on your own. If all goes well, you'll have all of your waking hours to spend with him. You don't need to share a room.
Hold out for this time. You can always bang his brains out when HE visits YOU.
Asks:
Hello, I have read your advice on long distance dating and it seems to have worked out fine with you. I am kinda in a long distance relationship now. I met the guy online and he lives across the ocean. We are planning to meet in his country and I am just curious what you did with your bf at the first time meeting?
I am little nervous to meet and spend a week with someone I've never known. Would it be weird for us to stay in separate rooms? Or should we spend time together in the same room, so we have more time to get to know each other??
Please advise.. not sure what I should and need to do to make it work out fine. thanks!
Lee's Thoughts:
In MY case, the first thing I did was bang his brains out. HOWEVER, we had known each other for three years before our three years of long distance even began.
So, in YOUR case, you should DEFINITELY book your own room for the ENTIRE WEEK. I'm sure you think you know this guy, but you don't. He could be prince charming or he could be an axe murderer. You don't want to take that chance. If he is prince charming, he will have no problems whatsoever with you preferring to stay in a separate room. In fact, he will RESPECT the way you take care of yourself and observe the fact that you are not crossing the ocean simply for some booty. This will convey the strong statement that you want to get to know him on a deeper level then just sex.
You should be nervous. That's what self-preservation feels like. You need to ensure that you have a place to stay in case he turns out to be a complete ass and you are left on your own. If all goes well, you'll have all of your waking hours to spend with him. You don't need to share a room.
Hold out for this time. You can always bang his brains out when HE visits YOU.
