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Tuesday, October 31, 2006
I'm in love with a big liar
Nicole, 21, from Miami asks:
My name is Nicole and I'm in love with a big liar. I love my boyfriend so much, but he has been lying to me since day 1. He lied about his name, age, where he's from, etc. But every time I find out about the lies, I cry and it hurts me a lot, but then stay with him, and try to forget about it. But each lies comes up every day or week. What should I do? Help me!
VictorM's advice:
He's a compulsive liar. I suggest you google "compulsive liar" and see the wealth of information that comes up. None of it any good. Some studies suggest it's a physical ailment based on the amount of white and gray matter is in the prefrontal area of the brain. What this means is that you can't change him, he probably can't help himself, and based on our science today, he will NEVER change.
You can either accept that he will always be like this and that he's not just lying to you; in truth, he lies to everyone about everything and no amount of pleading that he doesn't have to lie to you will change anything. You also have to accept that the lying will get worse over time and it won't always be about little things. Or, you can walk away because this guy will make your life a living hell.
If you can't walk away from him, then don't complain about his lying -- you have no more willpower than him and while your weakness is different, it's still a major weakness!
Tags: advice, dating, relationship, question, answer, boyfriend, girlfriend
My name is Nicole and I'm in love with a big liar. I love my boyfriend so much, but he has been lying to me since day 1. He lied about his name, age, where he's from, etc. But every time I find out about the lies, I cry and it hurts me a lot, but then stay with him, and try to forget about it. But each lies comes up every day or week. What should I do? Help me!
VictorM's advice:
He's a compulsive liar. I suggest you google "compulsive liar" and see the wealth of information that comes up. None of it any good. Some studies suggest it's a physical ailment based on the amount of white and gray matter is in the prefrontal area of the brain. What this means is that you can't change him, he probably can't help himself, and based on our science today, he will NEVER change.
You can either accept that he will always be like this and that he's not just lying to you; in truth, he lies to everyone about everything and no amount of pleading that he doesn't have to lie to you will change anything. You also have to accept that the lying will get worse over time and it won't always be about little things. Or, you can walk away because this guy will make your life a living hell.
If you can't walk away from him, then don't complain about his lying -- you have no more willpower than him and while your weakness is different, it's still a major weakness!
Tags: advice, dating, relationship, question, answer, boyfriend, girlfriend
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You're lying to yourself.
You don't think you can do any better, so you stay with a liar.
Sounds like you have a beautiful future in front of you. You should get married and have a bunch of kids so he can lie to you and them for the rest of your life...fun.
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You don't think you can do any better, so you stay with a liar.
Sounds like you have a beautiful future in front of you. You should get married and have a bunch of kids so he can lie to you and them for the rest of your life...fun.
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