George, 14
British Columbia
Asks:

When I go to dances that my school hosts, I have the biggest problem talking to girls. When I do work up the courage to talk to a girl, they'd normally just say hi and shy away. Am I doing anything wrong?

Lee's Thoughts:

The problem is that you are letting them get away with one-word answers. If you say hi, they will say hi and just leave (everyone is nervous and shy at this point). If you say how are you, they can say, "Fine" and just leave.

You need to approach these girls when they have paused somewhere for a moment. Good moments are if she is behind you in line at the water fountain, if she is getting a snack or punch at the dance, in line for the bathroom, waiting for her mom to pick her up outside...wherever she will be standing for a moment or two.

Next, you have to think of a good question that takes some thought.

"Good luck in your basketball game tomorrow. Is that team tough?"

"What did you think about that Chemistry exam?"

"What do you think about this DJ?" (at the dance)

That way, her answer will be the beginnings of an actual conversation. Just show some interest. Ask her about something she's interested in.

Good LUCK!