Monday, August 21, 2006
I Dress as Skimpy as I Can
Willow, 12 1/2
USA
Asks:
I need help. I really love this hot older boy down the street from me. I even got his mom to sign for my paper route so I could maybe meet him. I dress as skimpy as I can when delivering to his house, but he still hasn't noticed me. How do I get noticed? I have a hard time making the first move. I can't go on real dates yet but maybe next year. I'll do anything. Please help.
Lee's Thoughts:
Maybe he isn't noticing you BECAUSE you are dressing like a whore. WHY WHY WHY would you think that trying to get yourself noticed by baring skin is the best way to get attention??? You are probably making yourself look even younger then you are by doing that.
Why not try to attract him with you witty sense of humor? Why not find out what he is interested in and (GASP) TALK to the boy? I know its scary, but that is the most positive and productive way to get to know him and to get him to notice you.
If he notices you for your lovely perky boobs, or for the way your butt hangs out of your short-shorts, he is going to be focused on one thing, and that will not be getting to know your MIND better, it will be getting to know your BODY better (NOT a cool right now).
You have a year before you can start dating and that is a very good thing. That will give you time to develop an aspect of your personality and/or interests that you will be even more proud to put on display then your body. What are YOU interested in? Is he interested in the same things? What do YOU like to do with your spare time? Does he like to do those same things?
This may not be the answer you wanted to hear, but you need to take this time to develop your own character and to begin to be the person/woman that you want to be. This way, you will know yourself fully and be able to present yourself (along with all that inspires you and makes you happy) to another person and find out what inspires THEM and makes THEM happy.
Treat him like a human being. Don't be afraid. You have nothing to lose. Be sweet. Talk to him about things that interest you and see if he responds. Use your BRAIN, not your bod. I promise it will yield better results.
USA
Asks:
I need help. I really love this hot older boy down the street from me. I even got his mom to sign for my paper route so I could maybe meet him. I dress as skimpy as I can when delivering to his house, but he still hasn't noticed me. How do I get noticed? I have a hard time making the first move. I can't go on real dates yet but maybe next year. I'll do anything. Please help.
Lee's Thoughts:
Maybe he isn't noticing you BECAUSE you are dressing like a whore. WHY WHY WHY would you think that trying to get yourself noticed by baring skin is the best way to get attention??? You are probably making yourself look even younger then you are by doing that.
Why not try to attract him with you witty sense of humor? Why not find out what he is interested in and (GASP) TALK to the boy? I know its scary, but that is the most positive and productive way to get to know him and to get him to notice you.
If he notices you for your lovely perky boobs, or for the way your butt hangs out of your short-shorts, he is going to be focused on one thing, and that will not be getting to know your MIND better, it will be getting to know your BODY better (NOT a cool right now).
You have a year before you can start dating and that is a very good thing. That will give you time to develop an aspect of your personality and/or interests that you will be even more proud to put on display then your body. What are YOU interested in? Is he interested in the same things? What do YOU like to do with your spare time? Does he like to do those same things?
This may not be the answer you wanted to hear, but you need to take this time to develop your own character and to begin to be the person/woman that you want to be. This way, you will know yourself fully and be able to present yourself (along with all that inspires you and makes you happy) to another person and find out what inspires THEM and makes THEM happy.
Treat him like a human being. Don't be afraid. You have nothing to lose. Be sweet. Talk to him about things that interest you and see if he responds. Use your BRAIN, not your bod. I promise it will yield better results.
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Lee
You write real well. i wish i could. i managed to finally get in the blog and wanted to once again thank you for taking the time and effort to write such a clear and understanding response to my problem. i really though i was doing right. I feel so very foolish and just wonder why nobody ever said anything to be before including mom and my g/fs. actually im a very quite person. one of my g/fs know one of billys friends so i will try find out his interest.
i don't know if i will ever be able to just walk up to him expecially now. again thanks you very much.
willow
You write real well. i wish i could. i managed to finally get in the blog and wanted to once again thank you for taking the time and effort to write such a clear and understanding response to my problem. i really though i was doing right. I feel so very foolish and just wonder why nobody ever said anything to be before including mom and my g/fs. actually im a very quite person. one of my g/fs know one of billys friends so i will try find out his interest.
i don't know if i will ever be able to just walk up to him expecially now. again thanks you very much.
willow
lee you are right!
and i am glad that you know you dont need to dress skimpy to get a guy to notice you! just be yourself and if he has any interest in you he will think you are beautiful on the inside and the outside! dont worry about guys yet wait till high school then you can worry about guys!
and i am glad that you know you dont need to dress skimpy to get a guy to notice you! just be yourself and if he has any interest in you he will think you are beautiful on the inside and the outside! dont worry about guys yet wait till high school then you can worry about guys!
Willow,
Don't STRESS! Don't Worry! You didn't do anything irreparable. Don't think you can't talk to him EVER. Just change your clothes. Dress normally. Be you. NOTHING in this life is PERMENANT. Everything is changeable. So chill baby. Please write back either here or in ARGers. We'd love to hear from you.
Don't STRESS! Don't Worry! You didn't do anything irreparable. Don't think you can't talk to him EVER. Just change your clothes. Dress normally. Be you. NOTHING in this life is PERMENANT. Everything is changeable. So chill baby. Please write back either here or in ARGers. We'd love to hear from you.
YOU'RE 12... GO BACK TO PLAYING WITH FUCKING BARBIES YOU FUTURE MOTHER OF 3 BY THE TIME YOU'RE 19. God, what the fuck happened to INNOCENCE!!!!!!!
please let me up i've got the idea and have now put away all my last year outgrown clothing. anyway he has just asked me to come over tomorrow while he works on his car. thanks Lee he thinks i know about cars. Anyway i do appreciate everyones cocerns
Rosebud aka Willow
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