Friday, July 21, 2006
Toying or Interested?
Kasey, 25
New Zealand
Asks:
I have been texting a guy for months now (he got my number from a mutual friend) and he is witty, charming, flirts with me and it is great! The trouble is I had a casual relationship going with one of his friends a few months ago and he brought this up during the one conversation that we had and seemed to judge me for it. He said that I've got so much going for me, why would I be with this guy?
Recently he mentioned finally wanting to meet up, but I'm wondering why would a guy want to text a girl for months before meeting, particularly a girl who has a history with his friend. He said it was because he just got out of a relationship and didn't want to be a part of the "dramas" between me and his friend, of which there are none. Is he just toying with me or is he interested?
Lee's Thoughts:
So, what WAS going on with the other guy? What did you tell witty/charming guy about the original guy?
IF the first guy was a nothing mistake, just tell that to Mr. Witty. "We were just hanging out and it didn't amount to much." Basically, acknowledge it and blow it off. Hopefully, that will appease him. If he has any deeper questions, he'll ask. It sounds like he has a high opinion of you, but a notsohigh opinion of the guy. He wants to know why you would be interested in that kinda guy and (on another level) how you can be interested in that type of guy and THIS type of guy....get it?
You can't blame him for not wanting in on any drama, right? I think texting or emailing a bit before delving into the wonderland of actually *dating*, is a great idea. Its a lovely way to get to know someone's mind and thoughts/fears/inspirations before all the physical stuff. I think he's cool and not toying with you at all. Go with it.
New Zealand
Asks:
I have been texting a guy for months now (he got my number from a mutual friend) and he is witty, charming, flirts with me and it is great! The trouble is I had a casual relationship going with one of his friends a few months ago and he brought this up during the one conversation that we had and seemed to judge me for it. He said that I've got so much going for me, why would I be with this guy?
Recently he mentioned finally wanting to meet up, but I'm wondering why would a guy want to text a girl for months before meeting, particularly a girl who has a history with his friend. He said it was because he just got out of a relationship and didn't want to be a part of the "dramas" between me and his friend, of which there are none. Is he just toying with me or is he interested?
Lee's Thoughts:
So, what WAS going on with the other guy? What did you tell witty/charming guy about the original guy?
IF the first guy was a nothing mistake, just tell that to Mr. Witty. "We were just hanging out and it didn't amount to much." Basically, acknowledge it and blow it off. Hopefully, that will appease him. If he has any deeper questions, he'll ask. It sounds like he has a high opinion of you, but a notsohigh opinion of the guy. He wants to know why you would be interested in that kinda guy and (on another level) how you can be interested in that type of guy and THIS type of guy....get it?
You can't blame him for not wanting in on any drama, right? I think texting or emailing a bit before delving into the wonderland of actually *dating*, is a great idea. Its a lovely way to get to know someone's mind and thoughts/fears/inspirations before all the physical stuff. I think he's cool and not toying with you at all. Go with it.
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THANK GOD I am do not have to date in the age of texting. I remember when you would get all nervous and shy to call a boy/girl. Texting on the cell phone doesn't take guts, it's soooo not personal and requires no actual human contact.. And we wonder why relationships have no strong foundations?!?!
Hmmm.
GUY: "You've got so much going for you...why would you be with THIS guy?"
KASEY: "Well thanks sweetie, I'm ever so relieved that you approve of my character (blechh!). As for your subtle insult about MY choice of a mate, I think you need to take your veiled (thinly)critisims and shove them up your...um..fanny. You really do need to identify if you're genuinely interested or just an insecure creep. Considering you implied that I'm a bad judge of character I think I better reconsider my choice of going out with you. So give me a moment...aah yes, I believe you need to hit the road fool!
You were feeling confusion Kasey because you know darn well he's riddled with mixed messages. Seriously, you can do without this guy, his fragile ego and his backhanded compliments.
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GUY: "You've got so much going for you...why would you be with THIS guy?"
KASEY: "Well thanks sweetie, I'm ever so relieved that you approve of my character (blechh!). As for your subtle insult about MY choice of a mate, I think you need to take your veiled (thinly)critisims and shove them up your...um..fanny. You really do need to identify if you're genuinely interested or just an insecure creep. Considering you implied that I'm a bad judge of character I think I better reconsider my choice of going out with you. So give me a moment...aah yes, I believe you need to hit the road fool!
You were feeling confusion Kasey because you know darn well he's riddled with mixed messages. Seriously, you can do without this guy, his fragile ego and his backhanded compliments.
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