Cal, 30
Georgia
Asks:

I've been broken up with my first girlfriend for over a year now and she absolutely has no words for me. I've been dating other women but I can't seem to get my mind off of my first love. I still care about her actions and we have no contact. She's very short with me. Should I just forget about it even if I feel she's the one for me? I make no attempts to get back with her. What should I do?

Lee's Thoughts:

I know it sucks, but you wouldn't have broken up if she was "the one". It would have worked out and you would have lived happily ever after. You need to distract yourself. You need to focus your energies on the things of value in your life...your family, your loved ones, the things that inspire you and make the world better. Stop swimming in the *what ifs* and the *could have should haves*. Dwelling on the past will not make for a very interesting present and will definitely not prepare you for a beautiful future.

Basically, you just have to suck it up. There is no easy answer here. You don't want to waste this short and precious life stressing about what you DON'T have. Start counting your blessings. Start appreciating what you DO have. Start practicing a little gratitude. That will help refocus you on what is really important.

Good luck.