Thursday, July 27, 2006
Lee's Patented Move #28
Chris, 15
New York
Asks:
So I just starting to see this girl. I feel like we have a connection, but I'm not sure. There's all these awkward moments with us when there's nothing said. I try to talk as much as I can but find my self running short a lot of the time. I'm a really outgoing type guy and she's not really that outgoing of a girl. Honestly I'm just confused and could use a little bit of direction. Thanks.
Lee's Thoughts:
If you feel like there is a connection, I would bet there probably is. No worries about that.
The thing about awkward moments is that lots of times, they are usually in your head. There's a little silence and then time stands still and you start thinking there may be tension and then you start building up the tension and then you feel like you haven't spoken for a half hour and omigod you're GONNA SCREAM!!!!
But usually, its about ten seconds....right? Remember, you don't need to be talking ALL the time. If you come upon a moment when neither of you has anything to say, don't force yourself to come up with something witty. Take a slow, deep breath to slow down time and your mind.
Use this moment to your biggest advantage and gently grasp her hand. Look deeply into her eyes (I KNOW, CHEESY, but stick with me here) and say (softly and sincerely) "I'm really having a great time with you." or "I'm so happy to be here with you." or you can go a little more begnin and say "This is just a great day." (Again, its all about your TONE and your SINCERITY and looking her in the eyes...It's a great move, I promise).
The electricity will jump from your eyes and your hand and she is sure to be hit with your (subtle) emotion and I'm sure you'll get a smile, if not a full giggle and blush.
If you are the outgoing type, you probably are more comfortable conversing. If she's not so outgoing, she's probably more comfortable with a little more quiet and just *being* together. If you have this connection, this will be a great way to capitalize on it. Just remember, a moment of silence is not a death sentence. You don't even have to say anything, just put your arm around her and squeeze and smile. It's simple its straight-forward and not too over the top.
Worst case scenario, pick out someone around you to make fun off. There's always some lady with a wacky hairdo or some guy with pants hiked up to his armpits.
GOOD LUCK!
New York
Asks:
So I just starting to see this girl. I feel like we have a connection, but I'm not sure. There's all these awkward moments with us when there's nothing said. I try to talk as much as I can but find my self running short a lot of the time. I'm a really outgoing type guy and she's not really that outgoing of a girl. Honestly I'm just confused and could use a little bit of direction. Thanks.
Lee's Thoughts:
If you feel like there is a connection, I would bet there probably is. No worries about that.
The thing about awkward moments is that lots of times, they are usually in your head. There's a little silence and then time stands still and you start thinking there may be tension and then you start building up the tension and then you feel like you haven't spoken for a half hour and omigod you're GONNA SCREAM!!!!
But usually, its about ten seconds....right? Remember, you don't need to be talking ALL the time. If you come upon a moment when neither of you has anything to say, don't force yourself to come up with something witty. Take a slow, deep breath to slow down time and your mind.
Use this moment to your biggest advantage and gently grasp her hand. Look deeply into her eyes (I KNOW, CHEESY, but stick with me here) and say (softly and sincerely) "I'm really having a great time with you." or "I'm so happy to be here with you." or you can go a little more begnin and say "This is just a great day." (Again, its all about your TONE and your SINCERITY and looking her in the eyes...It's a great move, I promise).
The electricity will jump from your eyes and your hand and she is sure to be hit with your (subtle) emotion and I'm sure you'll get a smile, if not a full giggle and blush.
If you are the outgoing type, you probably are more comfortable conversing. If she's not so outgoing, she's probably more comfortable with a little more quiet and just *being* together. If you have this connection, this will be a great way to capitalize on it. Just remember, a moment of silence is not a death sentence. You don't even have to say anything, just put your arm around her and squeeze and smile. It's simple its straight-forward and not too over the top.
Worst case scenario, pick out someone around you to make fun off. There's always some lady with a wacky hairdo or some guy with pants hiked up to his armpits.
GOOD LUCK!
