Sarah, 18, from Arizona asks:

My boyfriend and I broke up a month ago. The story is that he was in love with me for 7 years, then he came down to visit for my friends graduation (his cousin) and then when we did start going out (I gave him a chance) everything was great until he broke up with me 2 weeks later. Well anyways, his aunt got in the middle and pretty much told him to break up with me, so he did, but he says he still does care about me and the stuff she said was stuff I don't recall him saying (well, she was over exaggerating) so now I don't know what to do. I'm lost on why he did that and I'm not sure what he's thinking. If he still does care then what is going on? Please help.

VictorM's advice:

For 7 years he fantasize abut how perfect you are. Then, in two weeks, reality stepped in. So he did the right thing -- he broke up with you. That's what dating is all about. People find out about each other and when they don't think it's a match, the break up and try again with someone else.
Once a guy breaks up with you, translate everything he says into "blah blah blah...". There is no point burning bridges or hurting anyone's feelings any more than one has to, so guys will say anything to get away with the minimal guilt. "I care for you" is just babble.

So Sarah... forget the 7 years, forget the aunt, forget the 2 weeks, forget what he says now. It's over! He's moving on and so should you.


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