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Thursday, July 27, 2006
He slept with a good friend of mine
Jenna, 29, from Nevada asks:
I used to live across the country and moved about 2 years ago. I got involved with a guy that lives there after I moved here. We are really into one another but it's long distance. Recently he slept with a really good friend of mine, and I am devastated. They all hang out all the time still and I'm out here. I don't want it to end but I am mad at both of them. He says he wants to work it out. I was thinking of going to see him, though I don't want to see her. Is that weird? Should I try and work it out with him?
VictorM's advice:
Work what out with him? It's not like you and him have a problem. He slept with her. He probably still does. She's probably not the only one (if he made no bones about sleeping with a good friend of yours what do you think will stop him from sleeping with others?)
What, exactly, do you expect to work out, other than prolonging the agony of being with a man you can't and shouldn't trust?
For the sake of your sanity, your dignity, and your peace of mind, ditch this guy and find one worthy of your attention. Seeking to work things out with this guy reeks of desperation, not love.
Tags: advice, dating, relationship, question, answer, boyfriend, girlfriend
I used to live across the country and moved about 2 years ago. I got involved with a guy that lives there after I moved here. We are really into one another but it's long distance. Recently he slept with a really good friend of mine, and I am devastated. They all hang out all the time still and I'm out here. I don't want it to end but I am mad at both of them. He says he wants to work it out. I was thinking of going to see him, though I don't want to see her. Is that weird? Should I try and work it out with him?
VictorM's advice:
Work what out with him? It's not like you and him have a problem. He slept with her. He probably still does. She's probably not the only one (if he made no bones about sleeping with a good friend of yours what do you think will stop him from sleeping with others?)
What, exactly, do you expect to work out, other than prolonging the agony of being with a man you can't and shouldn't trust?
For the sake of your sanity, your dignity, and your peace of mind, ditch this guy and find one worthy of your attention. Seeking to work things out with this guy reeks of desperation, not love.
Tags: advice, dating, relationship, question, answer, boyfriend, girlfriend
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Whay would you want to stay with a guy that would sleep with your friend. More importantly, why would you want to be friends with her?
Jenna, the behavior of both your boyfriend and your friend is absolutely,utterly,unquestionably BRUTALY disgusting!!!
The only thing you need to "work out" is why the hell you'd even consider continuing a relationship with creep boy. You don't want anything to do with your friend...so what makes this SLIME BALL any different???
You are lucky to find out his little character flaws now, so you won't marry the fool under false-pretense. (Oh, and if you reflect back over the years, I bet you'll see the warning signs (that you ignored) which indicated he was a self-centered baffoon long before THIS event ever took place. See why it's so important not to betray yourself?)
Celebrate your freedom from Mr. HELLSPAWN. Crack out the champaign would you!!
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The only thing you need to "work out" is why the hell you'd even consider continuing a relationship with creep boy. You don't want anything to do with your friend...so what makes this SLIME BALL any different???
You are lucky to find out his little character flaws now, so you won't marry the fool under false-pretense. (Oh, and if you reflect back over the years, I bet you'll see the warning signs (that you ignored) which indicated he was a self-centered baffoon long before THIS event ever took place. See why it's so important not to betray yourself?)
Celebrate your freedom from Mr. HELLSPAWN. Crack out the champaign would you!!
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