Charlene, 17
Ireland
Asks:

I've been with me fella for seven months and he's deadly real nice and proper decent, but he's away in Italy. Recently when I was out with me girl mates me ex fella spotted us. Me friend gave me ex me number and he rang me. I told him I didn't want anything to do with him but he threatened to stab me fella if I didn't get back with him! Me fella doesn't know and I moved down to the country until he gets back. Me ex is rough and is involved with heroin, but I'm terrified about what he'll do if I tell him no cause I love me fella to bits and wouldn't let anyone hurt him. What do you think I should do??

Lee's Thoughts:

First, tell your "friend" to NEVER give your phone number out without your permission, especially to psycho ex-boyfriends.

Then, tell your fella everything. He deserves to know what's going on, especially if someone is out to hurt him. He needs to be aware and ready in case this guy really attacks him.

Finally, CALL THE POLICE. You may be able to get a restraining order on this guy. Even if the police can't do anything, you can file a report so that if he does do anything crazy, it is documented that you were concerned for your safety and you notified the proper authorities. Document every interaction he has with you. Save any phone messages, record any conversations. Write down every date he calls you, what he said, etc. Write it all down. Hopefully he'll get bored and leave you alone. Until then, notify everyone you know about the situation and documentdocument.

Keep your eyes open.