My approach is different.

You need to be real.

Using insincere compliments to get a man's attention will only gain you an insincere man.

If I'm out somewhere and a man says "you're eyes are beautiful" or "that shirt looks great on you"..well this would do absolutely nothing for me. For me, a genuine smile or look would be good for starters..and after that I would need to sense his authenticity and courage.

So I say stop chasing him, you've chased enough. If he comes around again forget about trying to appeal to his ego...it's fake. If you're going to offer something then offer something within yourself..something authentic...something genuine...something of you. It doesn't have to be anything grand...maybe just a smile,..or your views on life...it doesn't matter. That's what attraction really is.

If he doesn't notice these things...then he doesn't notice you...and it will mean he's not attracted. But that's ok...because then you'll be free to find someone who IS attracted to you...or, they will find you.

A person who already feels good about their self wouldn't need flattery to connect with another. Any compliment forthcomming after a connection is established you will then know to be genuine.

Beleive me, you wouldn't want the attention of a pointy headed moron.

Stay real.
 

Yes, the compliments must be sincere.

Come on, Tango, everyone likes to get complimented. Don't you?
 

When compliments are genuine, yes it's nice.

Like I said, if I'm out somewhere and approached by a man and he gives me the old line "your eyes are beautiful"...then it tells me 2 things. 1) He's unoriginal, and inturn must assume that I also share his uninspiring character-traits if I'd actually fall for that crud 2)he wants some candy...if you know what I mean.

His whole approach shows me that he has nothing to offer...and he holds the assumption that I'm dependent on his compliments to make me feel good about myself. Do you get that??

The girl who wrote in wanted to know how to get this guy to chase her. But it's irrelevant...because if he liked her and was open to who she really was..he would have already noticed her by now and she wouldn't HAVE to chase him. But you advised her to make the guy "feel good about himself" as a way to get his attention. So, inturn if he does respond favourably to insincere compliments then it speaks volumes about his low confidence level. The relationship will end up being all about him and the way HE feels, what HE needs etc.. Not to mention that he's only with her because she made him feel good...not because he actually liked her and recognized her true beauty. Got that Vic?...lol
 

If he recognized her true beauty he would feel good around her. Sometimes, guys need a little push to get that position.

Oh, by the way, don't confuse "compliments" with "pick-up lines".
 

I don't agree that "guys need a little push to get into that position". A simple face to face converstation is all that's required in order to determine if someone finds you interesting or not and vice versa.

If I'm not attracted to someone after that then no amount of "compliments" to stroke my ego are going to change my mind. If he continues it just indicates to me that his ego is bruised...not that he's genuinely interested.

And in the instance of this girl writng in, I'd say her ego is bruised..that's why she feels desperate right now...she so badly wants him to now chase HER inorder to re-address the balance...OF EGOS. Plain old game playin.

I say one thing: If the heart is WHOLE...it can never be broken.

Oh, by the way Vic, don't confuse "compliments" with "pick-up lines."