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Thursday, June 29, 2006
A waiter in my local pub
Lauren, 16, from London, England asks:
Hi there, well, basically I just wanted to know if this guy that I fancy likes me back. You see, he's a waiter in my local pub and he's quite good friends with my dad. Now, I started liking him about a week ago. He talked to me for the first time. Actually, it wasn't like a proper conversation, he just said 'alrite, trouble?' I know, it's wasn't much but we both laughed. Anyway, I keep catching him glancing at me. Like one time, I went to the bar (to help my mum with the drinks) and as he was getting something behind the bar, he looked up at me and had this expression on his face like he was gonna say something. I just walked away because I wasn't sure what he was doing, I wasn't gonna stand there and look like a total idiot, waiting for him to talk to me but he had this look on his face like he was happy to see me or something. Now, he's caught me staring at him and I've caught him staring at me. I just get the feeling he likes me, you know, woman's instinct maybe but I don't want to base everything on what I feel because I've been wrong about this stuff in the past but this guy is older than guys I usually waste my time on. He's not a silly little high school boy, he's about 22 I reckon. So please help me out, I fancy the pants off him but I don't know where to start. I'm kind of shy when it comes to things like this and I'm getting the impression that he is too. What should I do? Should I tell my dad and maybe he'll tell him how I feel? Thanks.
VictorM's advice:
Noooooooo!!!!!! Don't tell your dad a thing! This is something that you and the boy have to resolve and you must keep everyone else out.
You don't even know his age and you haven't even had a conversation with the guy. For crying out loud, do you even know his name? Yeah, yeah, I'm sure you do, but try to make conversation with him about simple things. Ask him about the refereeing in World Cup, or about anything else you know he's interested in. Talk to the guy a little more before you plan to marry him. And, if it looks like he's going to say something to you... LISTEN! Don't walk away.
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Hi there, well, basically I just wanted to know if this guy that I fancy likes me back. You see, he's a waiter in my local pub and he's quite good friends with my dad. Now, I started liking him about a week ago. He talked to me for the first time. Actually, it wasn't like a proper conversation, he just said 'alrite, trouble?' I know, it's wasn't much but we both laughed. Anyway, I keep catching him glancing at me. Like one time, I went to the bar (to help my mum with the drinks) and as he was getting something behind the bar, he looked up at me and had this expression on his face like he was gonna say something. I just walked away because I wasn't sure what he was doing, I wasn't gonna stand there and look like a total idiot, waiting for him to talk to me but he had this look on his face like he was happy to see me or something. Now, he's caught me staring at him and I've caught him staring at me. I just get the feeling he likes me, you know, woman's instinct maybe but I don't want to base everything on what I feel because I've been wrong about this stuff in the past but this guy is older than guys I usually waste my time on. He's not a silly little high school boy, he's about 22 I reckon. So please help me out, I fancy the pants off him but I don't know where to start. I'm kind of shy when it comes to things like this and I'm getting the impression that he is too. What should I do? Should I tell my dad and maybe he'll tell him how I feel? Thanks.
VictorM's advice:
Noooooooo!!!!!! Don't tell your dad a thing! This is something that you and the boy have to resolve and you must keep everyone else out.
You don't even know his age and you haven't even had a conversation with the guy. For crying out loud, do you even know his name? Yeah, yeah, I'm sure you do, but try to make conversation with him about simple things. Ask him about the refereeing in World Cup, or about anything else you know he's interested in. Talk to the guy a little more before you plan to marry him. And, if it looks like he's going to say something to you... LISTEN! Don't walk away.
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Hi Lauren,
We 20 year-olds find younger girls very attractive but there is a catch 22. Legally we are not allowed to be with girls of your age. Morally, we don't know if we should be taking advantage of the situation. I have been attracted to many girls your age but I feel it would be wrong to have a relationship with a girl that young. Most 16 year-olds are not mature enough to know what they want in a relationship and don't know what is good for them. He may find you physically attractive, but it would be difficult for him to act on it for the above reasons. Relationships are based on more than pure physical attraction. I find that most 16 year-olds are too immature to carry on a meaningful conversation eventhough I am physically attracted to them.
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We 20 year-olds find younger girls very attractive but there is a catch 22. Legally we are not allowed to be with girls of your age. Morally, we don't know if we should be taking advantage of the situation. I have been attracted to many girls your age but I feel it would be wrong to have a relationship with a girl that young. Most 16 year-olds are not mature enough to know what they want in a relationship and don't know what is good for them. He may find you physically attractive, but it would be difficult for him to act on it for the above reasons. Relationships are based on more than pure physical attraction. I find that most 16 year-olds are too immature to carry on a meaningful conversation eventhough I am physically attracted to them.
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