Ashley, 17, from Minnesota asks:

Hi this guy named Greg and I used to go to school together back in 10th grade. After that year he moved and I never heard from him again. I am now a senior and very close to graduating. I just made a myspace a couple of months ago and he somehow found my profile and we started talking again. This time it wasn't like friend talking, we started hard core flirting with each other, and then we started texting and everything. He eventually brought up the subject of long distance relationships (he lives about an hour away) and asked my opinion on them. Of course we both declared that we indeed like one another and would like to date each other someday. About a week later my Dad died. He was extremely supportive of me, and every time I cried at night he refused to go to sleep until he knew I was. We eventually got together last Friday. He slept over at my house. We went out to dinner and a movie and he was a complete gentleman. Later that night we ended up having sex in my basement. He said it was the best he had ever had, and the way he said it I knew he wasn't joking. We fell asleep in each others arms and he held me the entire night. The next day when he had to go home, he really didn't want to cuz he said he had such a wonderful time, and I believed him. It's now been almost a week, and he hasn't been texting me nearly as much as he did before he slept over. Does he still like me? Was he a hit and run guy? He still says he wants to spend the summer with me and all, but he just hasn't been talking to me as much as he did before. Does he still like me?

VictorM's advice:

Sorry to hear about your father.

He might still like you but the mystery has been solved, the castle has been conquered, and now it's time to sit back and relax (meaning, he'll get lazy). Basically, you've found the prototype of your typical male: aggressive and hard working while the prize is out there; lazy and laid back once the prize has been conquered. And in your case, in one date, really, he got the whole kitt'n kaboodle.

You want better results? Make him work for your affection. If you don't, he won't. And if he was just a hit and run kind of guy, learn from it so that next time you give a little less of yourself initially until you know he's not after just one thing.

But don't give up on this guy. He started out with good qualities and they may still be there. He's just acting like a typical guy now.


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