Monday, May 08, 2006
Should I Ask Him?
Sara, 41
California
Asks:
I met this man who is 44 year old. He owns a Spa and I used their services few times. The first time we saw each other, I felt the chemistry from both sides. We had two long conversations, actually he initiated both conversation, complemented me, asked me what I am looking for in a man. I told him basically an honest man. He replied, "I am an honest man," and then I asked him the same question. He kind of described my personality when answered the question. He even asked when is my birthday and told me when is his birthday to.
When I left the spa, he refused to charge me for the service and told me that he enjoyed my company. I can see and feel how much he likes me. The thing is my religion is different from his. I am Muslim. He asked me if I am conservative. I said no, but still he did not asked me out. I am tired of waiting. It is hard to talk at his spa, it is his business. He is so passionate about life, has strong personality. He has no problem expressing himself or talking to others. Basically he is not shy. Would it be okay if I asked him out for a cup of coffee? I really would like to know him more, I have never done this before asking a guy out. help
Lee's Thoughts:
Yes, YES YES!! He is totally in to you. ASK HIM!! He's been initiating all of these conversations, you need to let him know that you are interested, and aren't just being polite.
You're getting FREE SPA services. That must have been at least a $100 *gift* right? He likes you. He described YOU when you asked him about what he's looking for.
The different religions thing can get difficult. But there is no way I would tell you to pass on this guy because of it. He seems sweet. He has a great job. Go for it!
Coffee is as great suggestion. You have room to talk, but it won't go on too long if the situation starts to suck. Also, if things are going well, you can always schedule dinner together later in the evening. The main point of this is to let him know that you're in for learning more about each other. Totally casual, but making a definite statement.
You can do it!!
California
Asks:
I met this man who is 44 year old. He owns a Spa and I used their services few times. The first time we saw each other, I felt the chemistry from both sides. We had two long conversations, actually he initiated both conversation, complemented me, asked me what I am looking for in a man. I told him basically an honest man. He replied, "I am an honest man," and then I asked him the same question. He kind of described my personality when answered the question. He even asked when is my birthday and told me when is his birthday to.
When I left the spa, he refused to charge me for the service and told me that he enjoyed my company. I can see and feel how much he likes me. The thing is my religion is different from his. I am Muslim. He asked me if I am conservative. I said no, but still he did not asked me out. I am tired of waiting. It is hard to talk at his spa, it is his business. He is so passionate about life, has strong personality. He has no problem expressing himself or talking to others. Basically he is not shy. Would it be okay if I asked him out for a cup of coffee? I really would like to know him more, I have never done this before asking a guy out. help
Lee's Thoughts:
Yes, YES YES!! He is totally in to you. ASK HIM!! He's been initiating all of these conversations, you need to let him know that you are interested, and aren't just being polite.
You're getting FREE SPA services. That must have been at least a $100 *gift* right? He likes you. He described YOU when you asked him about what he's looking for.
The different religions thing can get difficult. But there is no way I would tell you to pass on this guy because of it. He seems sweet. He has a great job. Go for it!
Coffee is as great suggestion. You have room to talk, but it won't go on too long if the situation starts to suck. Also, if things are going well, you can always schedule dinner together later in the evening. The main point of this is to let him know that you're in for learning more about each other. Totally casual, but making a definite statement.
You can do it!!
