Sara,41
California
Asks:

So, I asked him to go out for a coffee as you suggested. His response was, "Of course." I called him on Tuesday and I asked when he would like to go out. He said, "Whenever you want." So I told him Saturday evening. He asked for my phone# to confirm. I requested him to confirm before Saturday. Today is Thursday and he did not call, I expected him to call at least to have a conversation over the phone before we go out, but nothing so far. I am so nervous and anxious to hear from him. This is my first time to ask a man out and I am so afraid of rejection.

Lee's Thoughts:

The chances are seriously slim that you will be rejected in this case. He said yes, didn't he? He asked for your number didn't he? Forget about this rejection stuff!! It will just hold you back, make you seem timid and insecure and will NOT help you in this relationship or life in general at all. This fear will not protect you and will not help you grow, so you just have to drop it.

It's not a big deal that he didn't call you on Thursday. He should call on Friday. If he calls anytime after noon on Saturday, tell him that you are very sorry, but since you didn't hear from him, you made other plans. Maybe you can set something up for another time. It's disrespectful for him to call you so late without some idea of where, when and IF you will be going out that night, ESPECIALLY if you asked him to confirm BEFORE SATURDAY.

Well, its Monday today, so please post and let us know how and if it went.