Max, 15
UK
Asks:

I love this girl and I have been seeing her for about a year and a half now. I try new things with her but she is really ticklish, like all over. So whenever I go to touch her she just giggles and tells me to stop. I take my hands away but then I feel like were not moving anywhere is it just me rushing her into things or does she just wanna stay as we are forever.

Lee's Thoughts:

I have my ticklish moments also. It depends on the day and/or the moment. However, in a sexual situation, ticklish = nervous. Whatever you are doing to make her giggle, stop and do something that doesn't make her giggle for the moment. If caressing her belly is causing it, go to running your fingers through her hair. If kissing her neck is making her laugh, start kissing her toes. Whisper to her. Tell her to breath deeply and relax. Her giggles are a subconscious defense to new things.

You need to communicate to her conscious mind and subconscious mind and tell her that she is safe (verbally and nonverbally). Move slowly and with warm caresses. (fingertips = tickly moves; full palm of the hand = warm moves). Warmth will inhibit the ticklishness. Turn off the fan. Make sure the room isn't too cool.

Then, go back to whatever it is that was making her giggle and do it sloooowly. Tell her to breathe. Talk her through calming her own mind. Basically, she has to WANT to calm down. Sometimes a fit of giggles is fun, but sometimes, it's time to just get over it and get to business. :) Let her know that she is in control of herself and her giggles and hopefully she will get a grip.

If it keeps going on, ask her straight out if she wants to be here, if she wants to be with you at that moment. Maybe then she will get the point.