Michelle, 20, from Vancouver Wa asks:

I hang out with a group of friends and last weekend one of my friend and I started having a really good conversation. Well that turned into a make out, than other stuff. Anyways we are the only one who know and we didn't really get to talk to each other about was it just that nothing more ever or does he want more. Now he won't talk to me when I call (I have only called once since and he called my other friend instead of me). So what I'm asking am I reading way to much into this thing and can I remain friends or did I just go a fuck things up. Oh yeah he was a virgin till that night. Thanks

VictorM's advice:

I think you're reading too much into it. He's probably just not sure how to address the issue with you, so he's avoiding you for now until he figures things out. It will be very weird for him when he sees you again. It's natural that he's thinking that night meant you think you two are now a couple and you expect a relationship to follow. But no matter what, don't be surprised if he acts a bit weird for a while.

For future reference, if all you want from a guy is friendship, having sex with him is not a good idea. And if what you want is a relationship, starting with sex is not a good idea either. You should decide for yourself exactly what you expect from him now, and act accordingly.

Oh, and the sooner you make it clear to him you don't expect him to marry you now, the better.


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