May 24, 2006 — There are a lot of lies out there about marriage that prospective brides and grooms, newlyweds, and long-married couples believe. Psychologist Robin L. Smith debunks many of them in her best-selling book, "Lies at the Altar: The Truth About Great Marriages." Smith's book includes 276 questions for people to ask themselves and their partner if they're thinking about getting married, or have been married for years and are looking for a new road map.

This article lists 4 of the 276 questions. I like these 2 in particular:

The past is over.
The truth is that the past is driving you to the chapel or the temple or the synagogue. Until you deal with the past, it will follow you. It's like luggage that you pack and you think you can leave in one city. When you arrive in the next one, your luggage is there too. You can't just get rid of it. You have to deal with it.

Anything is better than being alone.
The truth is that being alone and free is better than being together and controlled. Growing into the human beings we are is our birthright that we are given by God and born to do. Marriage is the best place for that to happen when we show up as grown-ups.

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