Thursday, May 11, 2006
A Good Relationship, BUT...
Kim, 16
Hull
Asks:
My boyfriend and I have a good relationship, but we see too much of each other. I don't know how to tell him that I need a bit of space. He will not let me speak to most of my friends as he doesn't like them and when I go out with them he goes mad. This caused an argument between me and my mom as she thinks he is right and I'm wrong. But she doesn't understand I can't do the things I used to do because he always wants to be with me. He rings me up at night and expects me to do everything he wants, so I don't know what to do. There are a lot more things, but I can't explain. Can you help?
Lee's Thoughts:
Read these next few lines back to yourself and see what YOU think:
Hull
Asks:
My boyfriend and I have a good relationship, but we see too much of each other. I don't know how to tell him that I need a bit of space. He will not let me speak to most of my friends as he doesn't like them and when I go out with them he goes mad. This caused an argument between me and my mom as she thinks he is right and I'm wrong. But she doesn't understand I can't do the things I used to do because he always wants to be with me. He rings me up at night and expects me to do everything he wants, so I don't know what to do. There are a lot more things, but I can't explain. Can you help?
Lee's Thoughts:
Read these next few lines back to yourself and see what YOU think:
- We see too much of each other.
- He will not let me speak to most of my friends.
- When I go out with them, he goes mad.
- I can't do the things I used to do.
- He expects me to do everything he wants.
What would you say to a friend who said these things about a boy? In what universe is there anything "good" about this relationship? Unless your "friends" are crack-smoking whore school drop-outs, he probably has no good reason to not like them.
As for your mom...I'm not sure what kind of relationship experience she has, but if she's advocating you stay with this manipulative obsessive jerkwad, she has some problems.
P.S. The way to tell someone that you need a bit of space??? ((ahem))...."I need a bit of space."
Lee is a genius.
