Thursday, May 04, 2006
Climax and Pain = Bad
N/A, 19 (come on people...at least FAKE a name and state...)
N/A
Asks:
I can only orgasm one way(that I know of) and my husband and I have already tried every way. The last two times we've had sex I can't reach my climax. Usually its no problem, and also its been hurting more in my gut area during and after. Does this sound familiar??
Lee's Thoughts:
Uh....NO!!!! Luckily, no it does not sound familiar.
HURT = BAD
PAIN = SOMETHING WRONG
Sex should not hurt, anywhere, in your gut, vagina, anywhere! The most you should feel is maybe a little sore (if you are doing it EXTRA rigorously), but it should not be painful and it should not last very long afterwards. This to me is a sign that you may need to get checked out by a doctor. Maybe that is why you are having trouble with your orgasm.
Not many women can very easily reach climax through intercourse. It takes foreplay and specific targeting of the clitoris or g-spot in order to get those motors running. Have you tried experimenting by yourself? Sometimes everything gets so heated, it is difficult to focus. It won't happen if you force it. It just has to come naturally. Try taking a bath by yourself and explore a little. You will learn what you like. You'll be able to go at your own pace without worrying about him, try different things and learn your own timing and rhythm. Then you can communicate to your husband what works.
Another trick to try is for him go down on you until you about to explode...then have him penetrate. You will be lubed up, halfway there, and you are SURE to climax. Basically, take it easy with yourself. Women usually need the slow sensual build-up (not a battering ram to the vagina) to get off. It just takes patience and tuning into what your body wants.
Good luck!
N/A
Asks:
I can only orgasm one way(that I know of) and my husband and I have already tried every way. The last two times we've had sex I can't reach my climax. Usually its no problem, and also its been hurting more in my gut area during and after. Does this sound familiar??
Lee's Thoughts:
Uh....NO!!!! Luckily, no it does not sound familiar.
HURT = BAD
PAIN = SOMETHING WRONG
Sex should not hurt, anywhere, in your gut, vagina, anywhere! The most you should feel is maybe a little sore (if you are doing it EXTRA rigorously), but it should not be painful and it should not last very long afterwards. This to me is a sign that you may need to get checked out by a doctor. Maybe that is why you are having trouble with your orgasm.
Not many women can very easily reach climax through intercourse. It takes foreplay and specific targeting of the clitoris or g-spot in order to get those motors running. Have you tried experimenting by yourself? Sometimes everything gets so heated, it is difficult to focus. It won't happen if you force it. It just has to come naturally. Try taking a bath by yourself and explore a little. You will learn what you like. You'll be able to go at your own pace without worrying about him, try different things and learn your own timing and rhythm. Then you can communicate to your husband what works.
Another trick to try is for him go down on you until you about to explode...then have him penetrate. You will be lubed up, halfway there, and you are SURE to climax. Basically, take it easy with yourself. Women usually need the slow sensual build-up (not a battering ram to the vagina) to get off. It just takes patience and tuning into what your body wants.
Good luck!
