Janet, 19, from Australia asks:

I am confused about the feelings of one of my friends. He has just recently started going out with a new girl, but some things he does leaves me unsure how he feels towards me. For instance, when we are talking in a group, he talks usually directly to me, staring into my eyes. When we are out dancing he dances with me at least as much as he does with his new girlfriend. He calls me every day, and text messages me as well. He begins to act weirdly when I mention other guys, he notices every time I wear a new outfit or if I am having a 'good hair day', he stands and sits very close to me, he will walk and talk with me and leave his girlfriend walking with our other friends, who she doesn't know very well, yet he does talk about her occasionally, the list goes on and on. What is up with his behaviour? I don't understand why he acts like this when he has a girlfriend. And if he does like me why wouldn't he just tell me?

VictorM's answer:

Yeah, he likes you but what encouragement does he get from you? My guess is that he thinks you don't feel for him the way he feels for you, so at least he's trying to go on with his life, hence the girlfriend. He will NOT say anything to you about his feelings towards you because even a 1% chance of rejection would be a catastrophe and at least as things are he gets to enjoy your company.

Also, in "guy logic", getting a girlfriend and mentioning her to you could be designed to provoke a reaction from you so he can gauge weather you like him or not. He'll dump her in a heartbeat for you.

If you like him too my advice is for you to make that abundantly clear to him (no little hints; guys get no hints). And to stop talking about other guys in front of him. If you don't like him as more than friends, then do nothing.