Friday, April 07, 2006
Talking to Girls
Jermaine, 15
FW
Asks:
I've tried hard, but I just can't figure out how to talk to girls deep enough to ask them out.
Lee's Thoughts:
There really aren't any tricks to talking to girls. You simply have to talk to them like they are one of your guy friends. You have to BE YOU. It's not like they are bitchy and cold until you say the magical combination of words that will make them fall over and swoon for you. The magic is when you find one who GETS YOU. When a girl laughs at your jokes and understands why Hulk Hogan is the greatest wrestler of all time and absolutely LOVES your 1988 Guns and Roses concert tour shirt (you know what I mean...whatever resonates with you), you'll know you've found someone special, and it will be EASY to talk to her.
You really don't want to deal with the ones who are difficult to talk to. You need to use your intuition a little bit here. Try to feel the *energy* of the situation. Does she look nervous? bored? distracted? smiling? sighing? just plain quiet? You can tell a lot by body language and by how YOU feel when you're around her. Just take a deep breath, calm yourself and listen to the signs.
But essentially, don't worry if things don't go very smoothly. That may just be a blatant sign that this is not the one for you!
FW
Asks:
I've tried hard, but I just can't figure out how to talk to girls deep enough to ask them out.
Lee's Thoughts:
There really aren't any tricks to talking to girls. You simply have to talk to them like they are one of your guy friends. You have to BE YOU. It's not like they are bitchy and cold until you say the magical combination of words that will make them fall over and swoon for you. The magic is when you find one who GETS YOU. When a girl laughs at your jokes and understands why Hulk Hogan is the greatest wrestler of all time and absolutely LOVES your 1988 Guns and Roses concert tour shirt (you know what I mean...whatever resonates with you), you'll know you've found someone special, and it will be EASY to talk to her.
You really don't want to deal with the ones who are difficult to talk to. You need to use your intuition a little bit here. Try to feel the *energy* of the situation. Does she look nervous? bored? distracted? smiling? sighing? just plain quiet? You can tell a lot by body language and by how YOU feel when you're around her. Just take a deep breath, calm yourself and listen to the signs.
But essentially, don't worry if things don't go very smoothly. That may just be a blatant sign that this is not the one for you!
