Monday, April 17, 2006
Talk About the Young and the Restless!!
Ken, 17
America
Asks:
Ok, a man and a woman are living with each other and the man’s son is also living with them. At the very start it’s all good but the son thinks that his dad’s girl is beautiful. That is where he leaves it, but the son being very horny starts to think about his dad’s girl. Over the first month they are together, he flirts with her and she flirts with him. Then one night they are home together alone and they sit on the love seat next to each other while watching a movie and they start to cuddle and the cuddle turns into him touching her side and her hair and every once and awhile touching her leg. But she tells him that she cannot kiss him and he tells her he does not want to kiss her beautiful lips when he truly does and he truly loves her. When the movie ended, she went to her room and he comes in 10 minutes later and sits on the bed. He’s not there to have sex or kiss or even sleep in there, just to cuddle and have some one to hold. That is what he thought, but after lying together for about 30 minutes, they start looking at each other and he slowly moves towards her and she does the same. The lips touch and don't kiss they just touch together like his top lip and her bottom lip and vise versa. Then it turns a full kiss he is shaking and so is she because they know that it is forbidden. After about 10 minutes of kissing, she goes and throws up. He goes in there with her to try to help and tells her maybe we should not do this and then when she stops throwing up, they go lay back down and kiss then that turns into sex. After that, they fall asleep. The next morning, she tells him that she is not in love with his dad anymore and has not been for a lot of the 8 years they have been together. She told him that she did love his dad she was just not in love with him anymore and it had been that way for a long time. Over the next week they fall deeper into love with each other and have more sex but they know the dad is coming home. The first day it is all good, but the son is so in love with her that he gets hurt when he sees them kiss. The night before he is supposed to leave, the dad and her have sex because she has to play it out so the dad will not have any suspicions. The son overhears them and is very hurt but he did not think that he would get this hurt and its like a pain in his belly and his heart hurts but he knew that they would have to do this kind of stuff for awhile until the son could get on his feet and move out. What do you think the son should do....because it hurts him really bad and he cries. What do you think about the situation?
Lee's Thoughts:
This sounds like an afterschool special. I'm going to assume that it's an actual question and not just a fabrication that belongs in the *Short Stories* section of ArgVille.
First, I do not believe that it is *love* between the woman and the son. No matter how powerful it feels, it won't last. Everything sexual feels powerful to a seventeen year old boy. Also, I don't have much respect for a woman who would a) have sexual and not maternal feelings for her potential step-son and b) cheat on her boyfriend with his seventeen year old son. That is wrong on so many levels.
The son is broken in a variety of ways. His original home life has been destroyed and he is left home alone with this immoral, predatory woman. If it was a boyfriend who had sex with a seventeen year old daughter, shit would hit the fan.
If YOU are the SON, as soon as you turn eighteen, you need to move the heck OUT. You need to get some student loans and move into the dorms of your local college. You need to join the military for a couple years and start getting some skills and laying the foundation for your future. You need to put as much distance as possible between yourself and this situation. These people are not good for you to be around. The most they deserve is a post card from you every couple of months.
OF COURSE you are looking for love and comfort and "someone to hold". It sounds like no one has been holding you or taking care of you for a long time, not your mom or your dad and this is making you reach out to inappropriate people. You are grasping for love and pulling in whoever responds. It wasn't your fault, but you need to take control of your actions now. Be aware of what is good and right and productive for you and your life. This woman IS NOT IT.
You have no one to take care of you right now, so you must do it. You must start making decisions like a MAN instead of a BOY and start thinking about your future. Start taking care of yourself.
Good Luck.
America
Asks:
Ok, a man and a woman are living with each other and the man’s son is also living with them. At the very start it’s all good but the son thinks that his dad’s girl is beautiful. That is where he leaves it, but the son being very horny starts to think about his dad’s girl. Over the first month they are together, he flirts with her and she flirts with him. Then one night they are home together alone and they sit on the love seat next to each other while watching a movie and they start to cuddle and the cuddle turns into him touching her side and her hair and every once and awhile touching her leg. But she tells him that she cannot kiss him and he tells her he does not want to kiss her beautiful lips when he truly does and he truly loves her. When the movie ended, she went to her room and he comes in 10 minutes later and sits on the bed. He’s not there to have sex or kiss or even sleep in there, just to cuddle and have some one to hold. That is what he thought, but after lying together for about 30 minutes, they start looking at each other and he slowly moves towards her and she does the same. The lips touch and don't kiss they just touch together like his top lip and her bottom lip and vise versa. Then it turns a full kiss he is shaking and so is she because they know that it is forbidden. After about 10 minutes of kissing, she goes and throws up. He goes in there with her to try to help and tells her maybe we should not do this and then when she stops throwing up, they go lay back down and kiss then that turns into sex. After that, they fall asleep. The next morning, she tells him that she is not in love with his dad anymore and has not been for a lot of the 8 years they have been together. She told him that she did love his dad she was just not in love with him anymore and it had been that way for a long time. Over the next week they fall deeper into love with each other and have more sex but they know the dad is coming home. The first day it is all good, but the son is so in love with her that he gets hurt when he sees them kiss. The night before he is supposed to leave, the dad and her have sex because she has to play it out so the dad will not have any suspicions. The son overhears them and is very hurt but he did not think that he would get this hurt and its like a pain in his belly and his heart hurts but he knew that they would have to do this kind of stuff for awhile until the son could get on his feet and move out. What do you think the son should do....because it hurts him really bad and he cries. What do you think about the situation?
Lee's Thoughts:
This sounds like an afterschool special. I'm going to assume that it's an actual question and not just a fabrication that belongs in the *Short Stories* section of ArgVille.
First, I do not believe that it is *love* between the woman and the son. No matter how powerful it feels, it won't last. Everything sexual feels powerful to a seventeen year old boy. Also, I don't have much respect for a woman who would a) have sexual and not maternal feelings for her potential step-son and b) cheat on her boyfriend with his seventeen year old son. That is wrong on so many levels.
The son is broken in a variety of ways. His original home life has been destroyed and he is left home alone with this immoral, predatory woman. If it was a boyfriend who had sex with a seventeen year old daughter, shit would hit the fan.
If YOU are the SON, as soon as you turn eighteen, you need to move the heck OUT. You need to get some student loans and move into the dorms of your local college. You need to join the military for a couple years and start getting some skills and laying the foundation for your future. You need to put as much distance as possible between yourself and this situation. These people are not good for you to be around. The most they deserve is a post card from you every couple of months.
OF COURSE you are looking for love and comfort and "someone to hold". It sounds like no one has been holding you or taking care of you for a long time, not your mom or your dad and this is making you reach out to inappropriate people. You are grasping for love and pulling in whoever responds. It wasn't your fault, but you need to take control of your actions now. Be aware of what is good and right and productive for you and your life. This woman IS NOT IT.
You have no one to take care of you right now, so you must do it. You must start making decisions like a MAN instead of a BOY and start thinking about your future. Start taking care of yourself.
Good Luck.
