In a conversation with a bunch of guys, this question came up: What is the number one thing that would be a turnoff about a woman who otherwise after a few dates seemed fine?

My very first reaction was to say smoker. No matter how appealing she might have been, if I find out she’s a smoker that’s a no-no. But then, after some more thought, I added racist. No, said the guys, it has to be just one thing. Why does it have to be just one thing? Because we said so, was the answer. That’s a dumb answer I said.

I’ll spare you how long this went on, but you should get a good idea why generally we guys grunt, don’t talk. Guys talking far too often leads to stuff like this.

Anyway, if I had to pick just one thing – dumb as it sounds – I would pick... er... this is dumb because how about dishonest? Promiscuous? Serial killer? Soccer hater? You get the idea why this is dumb. So I refused to answer. I grunted and walked away.

But, just between you and me, I’ll stick to something tangible -- after all, what if she’s accused of being a serial killer but it turns out she’s innocent? I’ll stick with smoker. A female who is a smoker these days is someone I would walk away from no matter how much I might have liked her initially.


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