Leonard, 16
Florida
Asks:

I really wanna have sex but I can't make quick moves. How do I speed things up with girls?

Lee's Thoughts:

You don't.

When you are ready, when she is ready, when the time is RIGHT, it comes naturally. There is no trick, no *Lee's Patented Move* for you to use to put Mr. Wiggly in his place. If it's not happening, it SHOULDN'T HAPPEN. Your inability to make the "quick moves" is your safety net from doing something you aren't ready/capable/mature enough/strong enough to deal with right now. I'm really trying to be honest, not mean.

Don't rush it. Sex before it feels natural is THE WORST SEX ON EARTH. If you are uncomfortable before you start, you'll be uncomfortable during...and that is NOT what you want.

I know you're a guy and I know you're sixteen. This combination really inhibits your ability to rely on intuition. You are probably wary of listening to your internal voice that is much stronger and more mature than the one saying "Do it, do it, just do it already." We all know what part of your anatomy THAT voice is coming from...and it ain't ya brain.

The voice you SHOULD be listening to is the one that reminds you that IF you were ready, you'd have no questions. IF you were ready, it would feel comfortable and smooth. You would know the girl was the one you wanted to share this with and she would feel safe with you.

This is not a difficult path if it is the right time and the right girl.

If you are trying to do this just to get your rocks off and you don't really care about the girl, things will get messy quick and it will surely come back to bite you in the ass. (BOTH, NOT in the good way).......

I would stick to your *right hand man* for right now, if ya know whatta mean. :)