After the last post I tried to get some information about eHarmony and remembered I had conducted an "interview" with a girl who's using the system. I searched my files and found the chat. This is only a few weeks old:

VictorM: Can you explain the basic process?
Answer: At the beginning, you take a psychological test. It takes you a good 45 minutes to an hour. Then they match you with people. This is all free. When you want to communicate with someone, there are several stages of communication. And that's where you have to start paying.

Once a guy makes contact, the guy get to ask the girl questions. The questions are prewritten by eharmony, but he can choose from 20 types of questions. They're multiple choice but you can also answer in your own words at the bottom. Then when you've answered them, the girl gets to ask her own 5 questions out of the same 20 prewritten.

After the guy answers them, then she gets to send her must haves/can't stands. Basically where you say I must have someone into hygiene, someone who is interested in children, someone who doesn't do illegal drugs, someone who isn't mean, stuff like that. You get to pick 10 out of 20 for those too. And then when he reads them he has to send the same to you.

Then there's the self written questions where you really get to know someone, and they have to answer in an essay form. That's as far as I've gotten with any of my matches. But I've only been doing it for two days.

VictorM: Do they match you geographically too?
Answer: Yes they do, but you have a choice, you can choose to keep it regional, national, or even international. I have mine set for regional, but I somehow got someone from Alaska, but he said in his profile he's willing to relocate for love.

VictorM: And have you had to pay anything yet?
Answer: You have to pay for the very first communication. It's $60 a month!!! But they have a 7 day trial. Every once in a while they send out a coupon, 3 months for 60 bucks.


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