Sheena, 20, from: WI asks:

I like this one boy who I bowl with and have in a class. I talk with him online quite a bit where we have very funny and interesting conversations. Sometimes we talk for an hour or two. We talk in person too and he is always smiling and saying something funny. The lecture we have together is pretty big, so sometimes he gets there too late to sit by me, but every time he can he does. At bowling I noticed him acting slightly more goofy when we would be bowling on the same lanes then if we were apart and one time I thought he was looking at me so I looked up at him and as soon as I caught his eyes, he quickly darted them away. It seems like he looks at me from time to time out of the corner of my eye. Another thing is, is that online we talk very easily and good, but in person its a little more nerve racking, but still good and funny. We actually talk more online then in person. I think he is shy when it comes to girls just like I am shy when it come to boys. He never brings up other girls and one time someone called him to go to a movie and I asked "was it a giiiiiiirl" and he said it was, but that it wasn't just the two of them going, there would be another guy there. I then said "just wondering hahah" and he said "eh, no problem". He didn't have to say "its not just the two of us going" so i don't know. He also seems to be taking some interest in my interests like going to a website I gave him(which I didn't think he would do) and actually tried what it said. Do you think that he likes me? If so, what should I do cause he may be too shy to say so, but I am too?!

VictorM's answer:

Does he like you? Duh! Of course he does.

Seems to me you're doing fine. Asking "was it a giiiiiiirl" shows some interest. That's good. If you're shy and you still manage to be cool and fun with him, that's a good sign.

Generally guys move into a relationship at a slower pace, so don't expect him to rush you to the altar. Your next goal should be to spend more time with him, one on one. Going to the movies is an easy way to do it. Since the movie topic has come up between you two, you could mention that you can't wait to see a certain movie (I recommend "Inside Man" or "16 Blocks" right now -- both movies will give you plenty to talk about after) and just say you hate going alone. See if he takes the bait. If he doesn't ask you to go, you can just say that you're going anyway at (make sure you have a time picked out) and if he wants to come along that would be great.

And you'll live happily ever after. :)


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