Friday, March 10, 2006
He's Taking it Slow
Jynn, 14
PCHS (Is this a new U.S. state I haven't heard of??)
Asks:
I have this totally great boyfriend but he won't make any moves. We've been best friends since second grade and just started dating in the eighth grade. My question is how do I get him to make a move? Or should I make the move?
Lee's Thoughts:
I'm not sure exactly which "move" you are talking about. If you've been friends since second grade, he may be having a hard time making the transition from buddies to romance. That's the sign of a good guy. He actually has respect for you. I suggest starting reeeeallly slow. Just hold his hand. Its a small, but significant gesture and its non-threatening. You need to just get him comfortable with that, and then take the baby steps forward.
If he's agreed to be your boyfriend, he probably won't slap your face if you lean in for a kiss. Try it! There's NOTHING wrong with making the first move. Good Luck!
PCHS (Is this a new U.S. state I haven't heard of??)
Asks:
I have this totally great boyfriend but he won't make any moves. We've been best friends since second grade and just started dating in the eighth grade. My question is how do I get him to make a move? Or should I make the move?
Lee's Thoughts:
I'm not sure exactly which "move" you are talking about. If you've been friends since second grade, he may be having a hard time making the transition from buddies to romance. That's the sign of a good guy. He actually has respect for you. I suggest starting reeeeallly slow. Just hold his hand. Its a small, but significant gesture and its non-threatening. You need to just get him comfortable with that, and then take the baby steps forward.
If he's agreed to be your boyfriend, he probably won't slap your face if you lean in for a kiss. Try it! There's NOTHING wrong with making the first move. Good Luck!
