SAM, 24
London
Asks:

I can't seem get myself in the game of love. I have been single for about 8 years now and I don't know what to do. I can't even go up to a girl and start talking to her. I have a few lady friends but they are just friends. I can't go and ask them to help me. I feel frightened when I try to speak to woman. Can you give me some advice here?

Lee's Thoughts:

Let's see...you've been single for 8 years...that's since....SIXTEEN YEARS OLD?
LUCKY!!! You've been single through the most annoying, complicated and transitional time of your life. Relationships in that stage RARELY last.

You find love when you find YOURSELF. You need to concentrate on YOU right now, put your energies towards becoming a better person...get your degree, learn something new, focus on your job, create a happy and inspiring living space. When you are truly happy with yourself and your life, (not only will you be happy), but you will be SO much more attractive to the opposite sex.

Aching and begging the universe for a girlfriend is NOT PRODUCTIVE. If you died today, you would have wasted the day wanting, needing, regretting, etc. You need to create a life that you are proud of WITHOUT the girl and then, you'll see, the fear will fade because peace will take over. Soon, the right girl will glide into your life.

Good Luck!