Monday, March 13, 2006
Does He Still Love Me?
Ashley, 14 from Minnesota
Asks:
I don't know if my boyfriend loves me anymore. How do I get him to tell me without asking him? How do I get him to get more interested and love me and want to be with me more again?
Lee's Thoughts:
If you psychic powers of mind reading are failing you, the only thing you can do is talk to him about it. If you don't feel you can talk to him about it, you are probably either:
a) with the wrong guy or
b) not ready for a real relationship
It's my opinion that if you don't FEEL the love from the other person, THERE IS NO LOVE. I've been in relationships where there was a "translation" problem. He kept saying he was trying to express it, but it didn't get through. Not good enough. Obviously there's something wrong and its time to Moooove On.
As for getting him to be interested again, why? Even if your magical powers work and he suddenly becomes loving again, odds are he'll probably drop the ball again sometime down the road and you'll be right back where you started.
You are only 14. Throughout your experiences with the many other guys you will date, please keep this question in mind...."How do I feel in this relationship?" Take time to think about the answer. Is it...joyful? stressed? annoyed? suffocated? enlightened? empowered? Write down as many adjectives as you can that will describe it. This list will spell it out beautifully. Then remember that you are in control of your life. Your happiness is not based on his whim.
Good Luck!
Asks:
I don't know if my boyfriend loves me anymore. How do I get him to tell me without asking him? How do I get him to get more interested and love me and want to be with me more again?
Lee's Thoughts:
If you psychic powers of mind reading are failing you, the only thing you can do is talk to him about it. If you don't feel you can talk to him about it, you are probably either:
a) with the wrong guy or
b) not ready for a real relationship
It's my opinion that if you don't FEEL the love from the other person, THERE IS NO LOVE. I've been in relationships where there was a "translation" problem. He kept saying he was trying to express it, but it didn't get through. Not good enough. Obviously there's something wrong and its time to Moooove On.
As for getting him to be interested again, why? Even if your magical powers work and he suddenly becomes loving again, odds are he'll probably drop the ball again sometime down the road and you'll be right back where you started.
You are only 14. Throughout your experiences with the many other guys you will date, please keep this question in mind...."How do I feel in this relationship?" Take time to think about the answer. Is it...joyful? stressed? annoyed? suffocated? enlightened? empowered? Write down as many adjectives as you can that will describe it. This list will spell it out beautifully. Then remember that you are in control of your life. Your happiness is not based on his whim.
Good Luck!
