Thursday, February 09, 2006
What are the clear signals a guy is interested?
Nicole, 21, from Durban asks: What are the clear signals a guy is interested? He is a very good looking guy who is very loud spoken and friendly to everyone. However he says things like he flirted with me when we first met and points out things I do. We make eye contact but I don't know if it is me looking at him or is it the both of us. Tell me what to look for please.
VictorM's advice: What you want to do is look for changes in his behavior when you are around. When you arrive at where he is, if he was talking loud does he quiet down? If he was standing still does he start pacing? Does he move from where he was sitting to get a better look at you? I'm only listing examples, but that's the sort of thing you want to look for.
Forget the flirting. Guys and girls flirt with people they like and also with people they don't like just for practice or because it's their personality to be flirty. Contrary to popular belief, flirting means nothing. After all, that construction worker with the pot belly that flirts with you probably isn't in love with you.
Forget the eye contact. Many times people make eye contact with another just because they have a booger on their nose or they can't believe how hideous the other person looks. Making eye contact means nothing.
Remember: changed behavior is the key. Well... that or buying you a red Ferrari.
Tags: advice, dating, relationship, behavior, flirt, flirting
VictorM's advice: What you want to do is look for changes in his behavior when you are around. When you arrive at where he is, if he was talking loud does he quiet down? If he was standing still does he start pacing? Does he move from where he was sitting to get a better look at you? I'm only listing examples, but that's the sort of thing you want to look for.
Forget the flirting. Guys and girls flirt with people they like and also with people they don't like just for practice or because it's their personality to be flirty. Contrary to popular belief, flirting means nothing. After all, that construction worker with the pot belly that flirts with you probably isn't in love with you.
Forget the eye contact. Many times people make eye contact with another just because they have a booger on their nose or they can't believe how hideous the other person looks. Making eye contact means nothing.
Remember: changed behavior is the key. Well... that or buying you a red Ferrari.
Tags: advice, dating, relationship, behavior, flirt, flirting
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going out with a guy,6months..iam always seem to be making a effort to spend time,with him..he says he dosnt chase women,they come to him..he never tells me his plans,until i ask him..and he starting to put me down,and it makes me feel like garbage..moody,up and down..never comes up with ideas,i have too..does he really like me?? or does he like the attention??
# posted by 
: 6:45 AM
: 6:45 AM
I like this guy alot!! I've liked him for so long now, and we're good friends. Just a little while ago i told him i liked him. For the first couple of days, he didn't beleive me, but was being extremely nice to me. Now all of a sudden, he's avoiding me, doesn't talk much to me, and i don't know what to do!!! Whats going on??
# posted by : 5:38 PM
: 5:38 PM
There is this guy I REALLY like...
My friend told me he once said I was hott, but sometimes he flirts with other girls...
i REALLY want to start a relationship with this guy, but I dont know what to do...
Sometimes I will look over at him and he will be staring at me and then he'll look away once i notice him, and that makes me feel good!
What should I do??
--Anonymous--
My friend told me he once said I was hott, but sometimes he flirts with other girls...
i REALLY want to start a relationship with this guy, but I dont know what to do...
Sometimes I will look over at him and he will be staring at me and then he'll look away once i notice him, and that makes me feel good!
What should I do??
--Anonymous--
# posted by : 1:38 PM
: 1:38 PM
There's this guy in band that plays the trumpet. He's really nice, but we don't really ever talk. I really like him. He's cute, smart, and just a great guy!!! Should I ask him out? How should I approach him? Oh! Did I mention that he's kinda popular? What should I do?!!!!!
# posted by : 10:01 PM
: 10:01 PM
Start up a conversation with him and try to keep him interested. If he really likes you, the conversation should flow naturally. Then you can date, get married, and have kids. Easy.
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Cheers,
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Feel free to email with questions or comments
There's this guy in my school that I like a whole lot but I don't know if he likes me or not so how/what are the signs that I should look for telling me that he likes me He is a very outgoing and he likes to stand out alot We have are moments were we talk and I think we flirt I mean I flirt but I can't really tell if he is flirting back not because he has a flirty personality with every one so how do I know if this guy likes me or not please help me I need to know if he does or doesn't
Thanks,
Thanks,
# posted by : 12:13 PM
: 12:13 PM
There is this man that lives near well practicly next door and I really like alot and I need to know if he likes me back so here is how we talk to each or give each other signs like I will be outside and he will come out just to clean druck and he will walk around to the pationers side just so I notice that he is there and IF I don't agnolig him he stands and stairs at me or waves and he always smiles around me so is this a sign that he likes me or is he just being friendly?
please help
Thanks,
Tammy
please help
Thanks,
Tammy
# posted by : 12:17 PM
: 12:17 PM
ok so I like this guy who is two years older than me. really friendly and funny.when its just him and me he REALLY talks to me. and he hugs me. And one time when his dad called me "huge" ( because I'm 6'1" ) he told me I'm not and that he has no idea what hes talking about, that he didn't mean it like that. He tease me that I have curves because I dontlike to admit it. and he touches my arm or hand, or if I touch his arm he tenses up, then slowly relaxes but when we are around other people he doesn't talk to me so much and if he does its always inside jokes. I caught him staring at me a few times and smiling when some people though I was his girlfriend...but he has a girlfriend one he has had for 3 years!!!!! who I'm friends with too. I think I'm in love with him. what do I do?
# posted by : 11:46 PM
: 11:46 PM
hey!!
my name is Linda and iam a 17 years old
i REALLY REALLY like this guy he is 20 i dont really care about the age diffence as i have gone for guys twice my age but i just want 2 now how he feels for me? i feel that he likes me because he teases me alot and seems to remember wat i last said in previous converstations? does that mean anything?
then there are times were he hits me or stands very close to me!! but mist of the time he teases me like alot.
he ask me twice about my love life? does that mean his interested? he keeps asking me how is my love life going! do i have a new boyfriend?
what type of guy do i lyk?
is this signs that he likes me?
i need help!!
thank you
:) linda
my name is Linda and iam a 17 years old
i REALLY REALLY like this guy he is 20 i dont really care about the age diffence as i have gone for guys twice my age but i just want 2 now how he feels for me? i feel that he likes me because he teases me alot and seems to remember wat i last said in previous converstations? does that mean anything?
then there are times were he hits me or stands very close to me!! but mist of the time he teases me like alot.
he ask me twice about my love life? does that mean his interested? he keeps asking me how is my love life going! do i have a new boyfriend?
what type of guy do i lyk?
is this signs that he likes me?
i need help!!
thank you
:) linda
# posted by : 3:56 AM
: 3:56 AM
OK.....well, unfortunately, shortly after my BIG! UGLY! divorce, I had a short, sweet, drunken interlude with a friend. It meant nothing other than physical comfort/satisfaction to either of us. However...OF COURSE, there was a third friend...someone I could totally picture falling for someday...and he found out about my "drunken-post-divorce-sex-act". This is completely unlike me...casual sex just isnt in my routine...and they both know it. BUT...they are best friends...or they WERE..actually all three of us have been great friends for years. Now, I have created a situation none of can seem to fix. "Jake" got into a fist fight with "Aaron" for taking advantage of me when I was "emotionally vulnerable", and now none of us seems to be able to even talk to eachother! How did I manage to make such a mess of TWO ..or I guess, THREE beautiful friendships with one big dumb drunk mistake??? Can I fix it? I really think BOTH of them know deep down that I've always had a little flame going for Jake......but male pride...and well, hell, my own stupid damn pride prevent any of us from being "REAL" grownups and talkin it out. HELP! ANY ADVICE?
# posted by : 8:34 AM
: 8:34 AM
i have liked this guy for 2 years and its like so pathectic cause he doesnt like me and he treats me like scum my freind said that he called me some things like sknak b .... you know what and some other stuff so its not a question is he interested thats a straight simple answer duh no.
# posted by : 8:55 AM
: 8:55 AM
I am engaged to my fiance and 2 years together. I love him and everything. But there is a guy that I know for about 6 years years, infact he was my dancing instructor and he is my ex boyfriends mate. my male mates are mates with him as well.
anyways... he always looks at me and acts weird around me, like at dancing he shows off around me to get attention, and comments he makes vary from time to time. when i am around my fiance he gets jealous and wont say hi to me or him. once he approached my fiance and i and asked if we were still together. He acts like a prick sometimes, but I dont know what draws me to him. I liked him since I was 15 years old and now im 21, and hes 27. we share similar qualities and hobbies. He gets me confused one day hes nice the next hes a prick. My fiance is so much better than him, but I cant help that this guy likes me or not. I need to know. I have everything with my fiance that I could ever want and maybe I see this guy too much to forget. Sould I quit dancing. and are these possible signs that he likes me. Even when I was single he would flirt but he would never approach me and ask me out, but I have a feeling that he likes me. HELP IM CONFUSED!!!
confused chik.
anyways... he always looks at me and acts weird around me, like at dancing he shows off around me to get attention, and comments he makes vary from time to time. when i am around my fiance he gets jealous and wont say hi to me or him. once he approached my fiance and i and asked if we were still together. He acts like a prick sometimes, but I dont know what draws me to him. I liked him since I was 15 years old and now im 21, and hes 27. we share similar qualities and hobbies. He gets me confused one day hes nice the next hes a prick. My fiance is so much better than him, but I cant help that this guy likes me or not. I need to know. I have everything with my fiance that I could ever want and maybe I see this guy too much to forget. Sould I quit dancing. and are these possible signs that he likes me. Even when I was single he would flirt but he would never approach me and ask me out, but I have a feeling that he likes me. HELP IM CONFUSED!!!
confused chik.
# posted by : 4:28 AM
: 4:28 AM
i realy need help theres this guy i dated... i broke up with him because he never wanted to talk but still liked him....after we broke up i was kinda mean then said i was sorry we broke up and asked him out again he said yes then no so i bslapped in frustration then cried then cussed him out all this was about three weeks ago and the night we broke up i cried in my sleep.. ive missed him and think im in love today i had one of my friends tell him how sorry i was and that i wanted to be friends again i would have told him myself but i probly wouldve started crying.. do we have a chance together i just cant get him off my mind and care about him more than my own life because i cant live without him which ive been doing but not well i cant consintrate on my school work(IM a straight a student)or anything i just think about how great he is and how dumb i am what should i do
# posted by : 7:18 PM
: 7:18 PM
i realy need help theres this guy i dated... i broke up with him because he never wanted to talk but still liked him....after we broke up i was kinda mean then said i was sorry we broke up and asked him out again he said yes then no so i bslapped in frustration then cried then cussed him out all this was about three weeks ago and the night we broke up i cried in my sleep.. ive missed him and think im in love today i had one of my friends tell him how sorry i was and that i wanted to be friends again i would have told him myself but i probly wouldve started crying.. do we have a chance together i just cant get him off my mind and care about him more than my own life because i cant live without him which ive been doing but not well i cant consintrate on my school work(IM a straight a student)or anything i just think about how great he is and how dumb i am what should i do
# posted by : 7:18 PM
: 7:18 PM
I was set up on a random double date with one of my friends and her date's friend. We hit it off pretty well. We were able to hold a friendly conversation. After that date he told my friend's date that he really like me. After that we started to hang out. Whenever we attempt to make plans to hang out, I always feel like I'm making more of an effort. I always ask what would he like to do, but all he says is whatever you would like to do. At the end of every date/hang out he always says call me so we can do this again. Does he like me or am I being used?
# posted by : 9:55 PM
: 9:55 PM
This guy in my math class i have known for 2 or 3 years.He told me he liked me in math class and i didnt know what to say.so i said i didnt like him.But the truth is i might but i have no idea what my feelings are..WHAT SHOULD I DO....
# posted by : 5:07 PM
: 5:07 PM
hi
there is a guy i so like have a crush on but hes bigger then me about one year ...i dont know if he likes me caze everytime time he sees me he looks at me and smiles so does that means that he likes me or something ,i wanna tell him that i like him but i cant and i dont no why i gess caze maybe he likes someone else . how should i know that he likes me? and am just 13 years old
there is a guy i so like have a crush on but hes bigger then me about one year ...i dont know if he likes me caze everytime time he sees me he looks at me and smiles so does that means that he likes me or something ,i wanna tell him that i like him but i cant and i dont no why i gess caze maybe he likes someone else . how should i know that he likes me? and am just 13 years old
# posted by : 7:38 AM
: 7:38 AM
What if a guy smiles and shakes his head at you in a teasing way whenever he walks by???????
# posted by : 4:06 PM
: 4:06 PM
What if a guy smiles and shakes his head at you in a teasing way whenever he walks by???????
You need other signs, this is not enough. Guys often do these things to girls they are not interested in just because they have nothing to lose and just like the attention.
You need other signs, this is not enough. Guys often do these things to girls they are not interested in just because they have nothing to lose and just like the attention.
Ok well there's this guy who I just saw this year. He asked me out once night but I didn't think he was serious because I heard his friends laughing in the background so I said no. The other day I was walking down the hall when I passed him and his friend and his friend poitned at me and asked him if "i was her" I just kept on walking. Keep in mind he asked me out months ago so I was a little confused why his friend brought me up. A few days ago I was talking to some people and I noticed him staring at me for a few seconds. He is really popular and almost every girl loves him. What does this mean?
# posted by : 9:27 PM
: 9:27 PM
Hi,
I met this guy at a basketball practice..i noticed that he was staring at me when i first came in and then he saw i was looking at him to then we wouldnt stop looking at each other...then when he tried to dunk he fell at my side then i moved back not to fall with him..so after when basketball was done i went to meet my guy friend which is also his friend..and i told him to give me the ball my friend wouldnt..so when he(the guy i met)got the ball he wanted to pass it to me but my friend wouldnt let me have it..so to end this..he(the guy i met)gave me the ball to do a lay-up..and i said no i cant do it..and i told him do it for me...then he did it and looked at me..at the end of basketball i asked my friend what his name was and to present me to him and my friend did..after we started talking we were alone we walked all the way to the bus stop and took the bus together.then i asked him for his msn so we could keep in touch..he gave it to me and i asked him if he would come online he said he would..then i got to my stop i said bye to him and i got off..then when i got off my bro and his guy friends where there and he was watching me...then he came online and we chatted and he told me to listen to his mixtape..and i did
since then we havent seen each other and i think i like him..but i dunno if he likes me or not cuz i thinkk i do..
I met this guy at a basketball practice..i noticed that he was staring at me when i first came in and then he saw i was looking at him to then we wouldnt stop looking at each other...then when he tried to dunk he fell at my side then i moved back not to fall with him..so after when basketball was done i went to meet my guy friend which is also his friend..and i told him to give me the ball my friend wouldnt..so when he(the guy i met)got the ball he wanted to pass it to me but my friend wouldnt let me have it..so to end this..he(the guy i met)gave me the ball to do a lay-up..and i said no i cant do it..and i told him do it for me...then he did it and looked at me..at the end of basketball i asked my friend what his name was and to present me to him and my friend did..after we started talking we were alone we walked all the way to the bus stop and took the bus together.then i asked him for his msn so we could keep in touch..he gave it to me and i asked him if he would come online he said he would..then i got to my stop i said bye to him and i got off..then when i got off my bro and his guy friends where there and he was watching me...then he came online and we chatted and he told me to listen to his mixtape..and i did
since then we havent seen each other and i think i like him..but i dunno if he likes me or not cuz i thinkk i do..
i really like dis guy but i dunno how 2 tell him he does talk me lately is starting to do pysical contanct wit mii like huggin me and telling mii i am funni but i dunno how 2 tell him i like him...
help me please..
someone..xox
help me please..
someone..xox
# posted by : 3:47 AM
: 3:47 AM
So this guy always talks to me. And he leans towards me when he talks to me. He'll look at me, and then when I catch him, he looks over my head and pretends he was looking at the homework.
(we're in high school)
So near the ends of class, he asks me what I'm doing this weekend. His friend asks him if he's asking me out. He hides his face.
I tell him I'm going out with friends on saturday and ask what he's doing. He says he has sports. Then the bell rings, and everyone leaves to go to their next classes.
I don't even know what just happened. Was he going to ask me out? did his kind-of-friend make him nervous? Was it the fact that the bell rang? Was it that I told him I was busy with friends? Maybe it's that and he thought it'd be desperate to ask about next weekend.
Next weekend I won't plan anything with friends until friday after school. That way if he asks again, I can say I'm doing nothing. Then maybe he'll ask me out. I don't know. I'm confused. Please please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(we're in high school)
So near the ends of class, he asks me what I'm doing this weekend. His friend asks him if he's asking me out. He hides his face.
I tell him I'm going out with friends on saturday and ask what he's doing. He says he has sports. Then the bell rings, and everyone leaves to go to their next classes.
I don't even know what just happened. Was he going to ask me out? did his kind-of-friend make him nervous? Was it the fact that the bell rang? Was it that I told him I was busy with friends? Maybe it's that and he thought it'd be desperate to ask about next weekend.
Next weekend I won't plan anything with friends until friday after school. That way if he asks again, I can say I'm doing nothing. Then maybe he'll ask me out. I don't know. I'm confused. Please please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
"going out with a guy,6months..iam always seem to be making a effort to spend time,with him..he says he dosnt chase women,they come to him..he never tells me his plans,until i ask him..and he starting to put me down,and it makes me feel like garbage..moody,up and down..never comes up with ideas,i have too..does he really like me?? or does he like the attention??"
dear anonymous,
never go out with a guy who makes you feel like garbage.
Dump him and find someone who treats you like a queen.
Julia
dear anonymous,
never go out with a guy who makes you feel like garbage.
Dump him and find someone who treats you like a queen.
Julia
"I like this guy alot!! I've liked him for so long now, and we're good friends. Just a little while ago i told him i liked him. For the first couple of days, he didn't beleive me, but was being extremely nice to me. Now all of a sudden, he's avoiding me, doesn't talk much to me, and i don't know what to do!!! Whats going on??"
dear anonymous,
this could mean a lot of things.
Firstly, he never thought about you in that way and is thinking about it for the first time. He could also be not interested, and just wants to be friends. He doesn't want to tell you that, and feels awkward around you now. Ask him what's going on. Tell him that it's okay and you won't be mad at him if he doesn't like you back.
Julia
dear anonymous,
this could mean a lot of things.
Firstly, he never thought about you in that way and is thinking about it for the first time. He could also be not interested, and just wants to be friends. He doesn't want to tell you that, and feels awkward around you now. Ask him what's going on. Tell him that it's okay and you won't be mad at him if he doesn't like you back.
Julia
"There is this guy I REALLY like...
My friend told me he once said I was hott, but sometimes he flirts with other girls...
i REALLY want to start a relationship with this guy, but I dont know what to do...
Sometimes I will look over at him and he will be staring at me and then he'll look away once i notice him, and that makes me feel good!
What should I do??"
dear anonymous,
don't be alarmed! Lot's of guys will flirt with more than one girl.
It doesn't always mean they like you less. and if he only flirts with them when your around, or is always glancing at you when he's flirting with them, then he's making you jealous. Or maybe he's just flirting in a fun sort of way.
Guys (and girls) do it all the time. Trust me, you've still got a chance.
Julia
My friend told me he once said I was hott, but sometimes he flirts with other girls...
i REALLY want to start a relationship with this guy, but I dont know what to do...
Sometimes I will look over at him and he will be staring at me and then he'll look away once i notice him, and that makes me feel good!
What should I do??"
dear anonymous,
don't be alarmed! Lot's of guys will flirt with more than one girl.
It doesn't always mean they like you less. and if he only flirts with them when your around, or is always glancing at you when he's flirting with them, then he's making you jealous. Or maybe he's just flirting in a fun sort of way.
Guys (and girls) do it all the time. Trust me, you've still got a chance.
Julia
"There's this guy in band that plays the trumpet. He's really nice, but we don't really ever talk. I really like him. He's cute, smart, and just a great guy!!! Should I ask him out? How should I approach him? Oh! Did I mention that he's kinda popular? What should I do?!!!!!"
Dear anonymous,
Whatever you do, don't ask him out.
as someone just said, you should start a conversation with him.
Talk to him. He'll want to know you before he asks you out.
Julia
Dear anonymous,
Whatever you do, don't ask him out.
as someone just said, you should start a conversation with him.
Talk to him. He'll want to know you before he asks you out.
Julia
"Ok well there's this guy who I just saw this year. He asked me out once night but I didn't think he was serious because I heard his friends laughing in the background so I said no. The other day I was walking down the hall when I passed him and his friend and his friend poitned at me and asked him if "i was her" I just kept on walking. Keep in mind he asked me out months ago so I was a little confused why his friend brought me up. A few days ago I was talking to some people and I noticed him staring at me for a few seconds. He is really popular and almost every girl loves him. What does this mean?"
Dear anonymous,
I think you might have hurt his feelings when you said no. Was he laughing with his friends? You can't always tell by what his friends are doing. It's all about how he says it.
Julia
Dear anonymous,
I think you might have hurt his feelings when you said no. Was he laughing with his friends? You can't always tell by what his friends are doing. It's all about how he says it.
Julia
"I was set up on a random double date with one of my friends and her date's friend. We hit it off pretty well. We were able to hold a friendly conversation. After that date he told my friend's date that he really like me. After that we started to hang out. Whenever we attempt to make plans to hang out, I always feel like I'm making more of an effort. I always ask what would he like to do, but all he says is whatever you would like to do. At the end of every date/hang out he always says call me so we can do this again. Does he like me or am I being used?"
He doesn't sound interested. You'd think if he was interested then he would make the effort to try to be with you. Him asking you to call him and not asking for your phone number is not a good sign. I'd watch out.
Julia
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He doesn't sound interested. You'd think if he was interested then he would make the effort to try to be with you. Him asking you to call him and not asking for your phone number is not a good sign. I'd watch out.
Julia
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