Janie, 27, from Florida asks: I've been dating this guy for about six months. Things are going great. My question is... If I was a boy dating a girl, I'd know exactly what to get her to make her day, make her feel extra special...flowers, small piece of jewelry, dinner out, etc. But what can I get my guy? Yeah, yeah, it's not about the material stuff, but I want to surprise him with something special every now and then and of course they don't go for all that cheesy stuff. What do guys like?

VictorM's advice: Not flowers!!! No way! If a guy says he would like flowers, dump him!

Actually, guys aren't as driven by gifts as females, but it sure feels nice when you get one. The most important thing really is to give him something you know he's going to like, something that he's mentioned before. Could be a book, a tie, tickets to a ball game or a concert, a new set of balls... golf balls, I mean. As long as it's something he's talked about.

Please, don't buy HIM something just because YOU like it. It has to be something you know he'll like. If you can't think of anything, you either haven't been asking the right questions or aren't paying attention. Don't assume -- know!

Of course... there's the three old reliable ones: 1) a red Ferrari; 2) a threesome with your best friend; 3) the six-pack of his favorite beer outside your door with a note saying: "A gift for you. Come inside for the red bow" and... you know the rest. Cheesy, but effective.


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