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Tuesday, February 28, 2006
Silence Treatment
MICHELLE RICHARDS, 41, from LONDON asks: I was seeing a guy on the internet. He had 2 kids and a hell of a divorce. We started seeing each other but only on a Wednesday, this was up to Christmas and then I told my family and they advise me to finish it, which I did. We are now friends but I have asked him where we are going and he said he's still screwed up and lost, could we be friends? I now have the silence treatment.
VictorM's advice: Divorces can be hell. Next to the death of a loved one, it's the most stressful thing for most humans. Your "where are are going" sounds like a suffocating question for a man trying to untangle himself from a previous relationship.
The silent treatment is a way to avoid you bringing on any more stress to his life -- he has plenty. Most guys prefer to shut-up instead of having to explain themselves about something that they don't want to talk about. Unless you are willing to be a friend and nothing more until he's ready for a change, I suggest you stay away.
VictorM's advice: Divorces can be hell. Next to the death of a loved one, it's the most stressful thing for most humans. Your "where are are going" sounds like a suffocating question for a man trying to untangle himself from a previous relationship.
The silent treatment is a way to avoid you bringing on any more stress to his life -- he has plenty. Most guys prefer to shut-up instead of having to explain themselves about something that they don't want to talk about. Unless you are willing to be a friend and nothing more until he's ready for a change, I suggest you stay away.
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