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Wednesday, February 01, 2006
How to make a guy fall in love with me
kim, 16 from welch asks: I would like to know how to make a guy fall in love with me and think that I'm the best thing that's ever happened to him. I want to be his princess but how can I get him this way?
VictorM's advice: A magic wand?
Actually, just be aware that when two people start feeling attracted to each other, it's never about the other person; it's how that person feels about himself/herself when around the other. What that means is, contrary to public perception, it's not the clothes you wear, the skin you show, or how cool you are. If you make a guy feel intelligent, important, attractive, interesting, funny, etc. around you, he'll seek you out and want to be with you.
Let's say the guy you like is good at math. Praise that skill. If he's wearing something nice, tell him so. If he says something funny tell him now much he makes you laugh. There's two things to remember (two Victor rules, if you will): make the compliments sincere and make them brief! If you lie he'll know it sooner or later. Besides, would you want a guy to get hook on you because you told him he makes you laugh when he really doesn't? Also, if you make the compliment too long, you ruin the impact. Say things like: "Great shirt, John" and then you move on. Or, "How do you know so much?" Then smile and move on.
So, give a guy sincere short compliments and you'll have him by the balls. (I should trademark that line).
Tags: advice, dating, relationship, compliment, attract, girl, boy, love
VictorM's advice: A magic wand?
Actually, just be aware that when two people start feeling attracted to each other, it's never about the other person; it's how that person feels about himself/herself when around the other. What that means is, contrary to public perception, it's not the clothes you wear, the skin you show, or how cool you are. If you make a guy feel intelligent, important, attractive, interesting, funny, etc. around you, he'll seek you out and want to be with you.
Let's say the guy you like is good at math. Praise that skill. If he's wearing something nice, tell him so. If he says something funny tell him now much he makes you laugh. There's two things to remember (two Victor rules, if you will): make the compliments sincere and make them brief! If you lie he'll know it sooner or later. Besides, would you want a guy to get hook on you because you told him he makes you laugh when he really doesn't? Also, if you make the compliment too long, you ruin the impact. Say things like: "Great shirt, John" and then you move on. Or, "How do you know so much?" Then smile and move on.
So, give a guy sincere short compliments and you'll have him by the balls. (I should trademark that line).
Tags: advice, dating, relationship, compliment, attract, girl, boy, love
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Victor-
I am not sure what to do. I recently got out of a relationship that lasted for three years. Now, my best friend and I are starting to like each other, but neither one of us are sure that we should act on it. Do you think we should, and if so, how should I start the conversation?? Thanks so much.
I am not sure what to do. I recently got out of a relationship that lasted for three years. Now, my best friend and I are starting to like each other, but neither one of us are sure that we should act on it. Do you think we should, and if so, how should I start the conversation?? Thanks so much.
hey victor,
my boyfriend and i have been going out for a while and he tld me he loved me a couple of months ago then the other night he took it back and said he didnt love me anymore because i dont like his friends enough and because he says i get mad when he hangs out with his friends but i dont its when he doesnt plan on telling me that he is going to hang out with his friends like if him and i have plans and he changes them and doesnt tell me but i love him tons and i cant stop loving him so can you help me figure out how to get him back
my boyfriend and i have been going out for a while and he tld me he loved me a couple of months ago then the other night he took it back and said he didnt love me anymore because i dont like his friends enough and because he says i get mad when he hangs out with his friends but i dont its when he doesnt plan on telling me that he is going to hang out with his friends like if him and i have plans and he changes them and doesnt tell me but i love him tons and i cant stop loving him so can you help me figure out how to get him back
Victor,I really like this one boy, but he's a total player. He goes around gets what he wants out of every girl and then leaves. And somehow I fell next in his line, but he hasn't gotten anything yet. I've also heard rumors he's planning on going back out with his ex for more sex. What should I do. Should I get revenge and teach him a lesson or what?
Hi Kim,
I think it's impossible to make a guy fall in love with you, unless you have magical powers. Just be yourself and if he doesn't like you, move onto the next guy, then the next guy. I think young people are way too emotional when it comes to dating. Everything thinks they can have exactly whom they want when. It doesn't work that way, this is not a candy store. Ask him out, if he declines, move on to the next. NEXT!
Cheers,
Napoleon Will's blog
Feel free to email with questions or comments
I think it's impossible to make a guy fall in love with you, unless you have magical powers. Just be yourself and if he doesn't like you, move onto the next guy, then the next guy. I think young people are way too emotional when it comes to dating. Everything thinks they can have exactly whom they want when. It doesn't work that way, this is not a candy store. Ask him out, if he declines, move on to the next. NEXT!
Cheers,
Napoleon Will's blog
Feel free to email with questions or comments
Wondering if you could help me. I have known this boy for three years are so. He teases me sometimes, makes me laugh. I was wondering if he likes me. He smiles at me alot too. And yes he does seem to quiet down around me unless he has made a good joke((When that happens it wont be quiet until five minutes after the joke has ended.))
After the first year we met he would always catch me staring at him. He would smile and turn away or stick his tounge out playfully then turn away.
With much thanks, Erin.
After the first year we met he would always catch me staring at him. He would smile and turn away or stick his tounge out playfully then turn away.
With much thanks, Erin.
I fell in love with my best friend but he dosnot like me helikes a nothor girl wich dosen'tlike him howcan iget him to notice me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dear Victor,
I really need ur professional advice. I am 21 yrs old and have been with a guy about 9 moths. I was a virgin when i met him and we waited 6 mths before having sex. But i have noticed since, that we do not have sex often enough...like 1 every 10 days or a week...he is 25, how can that be? how can he sleep beside me 4 nights of the week and not want or need me...or have the desire..he always says he has no energy or has to wake up, or needs to sleep...what does this mean?
I really need ur professional advice. I am 21 yrs old and have been with a guy about 9 moths. I was a virgin when i met him and we waited 6 mths before having sex. But i have noticed since, that we do not have sex often enough...like 1 every 10 days or a week...he is 25, how can that be? how can he sleep beside me 4 nights of the week and not want or need me...or have the desire..he always says he has no energy or has to wake up, or needs to sleep...what does this mean?
dear victor,
i was dating my ex for about a year and we broke up because i moved to another town an he thought i was cheating on him so he cheated on me with my old bestfriend.. now i moved back and we are just friends an lately i have been thinking about him an i want that realtionship back.. the relationship of love an it seems like every guy that I try to be with doesnt want that? I think it might be the fact that i bug them about it.. but then i met this guy and he had a girlfriend but we hooked up an he dumped her an i felt like a total skank. Then i wrote him a letter saying that i thought it wasnt a good idea if we hung out just now because they broke up. he responded with i cant believe you did this i dumped her for you (an i didnt know this) an now he seems mad and he said oh well i can still get back together with my ex an now i feel like everything i wanted is going away again? what should i do
i was dating my ex for about a year and we broke up because i moved to another town an he thought i was cheating on him so he cheated on me with my old bestfriend.. now i moved back and we are just friends an lately i have been thinking about him an i want that realtionship back.. the relationship of love an it seems like every guy that I try to be with doesnt want that? I think it might be the fact that i bug them about it.. but then i met this guy and he had a girlfriend but we hooked up an he dumped her an i felt like a total skank. Then i wrote him a letter saying that i thought it wasnt a good idea if we hung out just now because they broke up. he responded with i cant believe you did this i dumped her for you (an i didnt know this) an now he seems mad and he said oh well i can still get back together with my ex an now i feel like everything i wanted is going away again? what should i do
i never have relationship problems. talking to guys comes easy for me, and i'm always getting hit on...
but recently i met this guy, and he is kind of a player--so to speak. just about everyone i know wants this guy.
he acts interested in me, but i know i'm not the only girl he thinks about [if he even does think about me.]
he says hi when he sees me and gets a friendly smile, but he never goes out of his way to hang out. we hung out a few times, but it was always with other people. we don't talk on the phone ever, and we've never had a serious conversation. i really don't know how he feals about me.
i don't know what it is about him, but i can't get him off my mind.
how can you tell if a guy is really into you, or if he's just messing around?
it's driving me crazy...
is it really that obvious when a guy wants you?
i understand that if he doesn't try then he's probably not interested.. but arn't some guys just like that?
i don't know. i really need to just hear the truth.
but recently i met this guy, and he is kind of a player--so to speak. just about everyone i know wants this guy.
he acts interested in me, but i know i'm not the only girl he thinks about [if he even does think about me.]
he says hi when he sees me and gets a friendly smile, but he never goes out of his way to hang out. we hung out a few times, but it was always with other people. we don't talk on the phone ever, and we've never had a serious conversation. i really don't know how he feals about me.
i don't know what it is about him, but i can't get him off my mind.
how can you tell if a guy is really into you, or if he's just messing around?
it's driving me crazy...
is it really that obvious when a guy wants you?
i understand that if he doesn't try then he's probably not interested.. but arn't some guys just like that?
i don't know. i really need to just hear the truth.
ohh,ok There's this one guy at my school (MMS). I had a crush on him three times.And i now am crushing on him again. His name is Zachary. we're kind of good friends But i don't know him that well.I don't know how to tell him i like him face to face,ask him out to the movies,or ask if he want's to date and be together
( boyfriend and girlfriend ).
I'm also scared of rejection. There's been so many guys that has said no or just did'nt want to date me because im ether to UGLY or i'm just A STUPID BLONDE.AND I REALLY....REALLY....REALLY.........
like him a-lot. So PLEASE help me!
From: Brooklyn Sims
( boyfriend and girlfriend ).
I'm also scared of rejection. There's been so many guys that has said no or just did'nt want to date me because im ether to UGLY or i'm just A STUPID BLONDE.AND I REALLY....REALLY....REALLY.........
like him a-lot. So PLEASE help me!
From: Brooklyn Sims
Victor, Im dating someone at the moment and well friends are telling me he wants to break up with me, is it something I did? was it something I said? Or does he just want to. Now I think I have made a wrong decision going out with him and I should have listened to my best friend.
Victor,
I'm starting to develope this "like" feeling for this guys ii just started talking to. Sometimes ii feel like he likes me but ii don't want to asume things. He's headed off to college out of state in a few weeks. He's been acting different lately. Everytime ii sign on Myspace, or aim, he signs off. He doesn't reply back to my messages and whenever ii get the chance to talk to him, he seems hesitant to stay! In the beginning he was so in a hurry to talk to me whenever he could, but now, ii don't know what up.
I'm starting to develope this "like" feeling for this guys ii just started talking to. Sometimes ii feel like he likes me but ii don't want to asume things. He's headed off to college out of state in a few weeks. He's been acting different lately. Everytime ii sign on Myspace, or aim, he signs off. He doesn't reply back to my messages and whenever ii get the chance to talk to him, he seems hesitant to stay! In the beginning he was so in a hurry to talk to me whenever he could, but now, ii don't know what up.
omg Im a fuckin slut this nigga be dissin my ass all day! He dont be wantin no relationship with me and Im so sad because I LIKE HIM A LOT what the fuck do I do?
Hi My name is Jessica Dillin i need to know what i can do to make this guy i love fall in love with me in about 1-3 days it is impossible what should i do?
Ps.the guys name is Richie
Ps.the guys name is Richie
I think that we should start to depend on ourselves rather than our partners. It is only natural for women to rely on men because in the stone ages men got the food. But alas it is the woman that gets the food now so why should we depend on them? I am by no means against men and I do like one in my life but they are slacking at their job. As nurturers we feel we have to look after them and get upset when they dont appreciate us for that. Perhaps we have got it wrong, perhaps they don't want to be mothered and nurtured, but because they don't speak to us who knows? It is hard because we want our individuality and we want to keep our femine side but we are tried everyday. Anyone got any great ideas?
there is this guys in my class that i ike a lote and he one tells me secrets sits near me and trys to get me to look at him he does this 2 everyone but me a littel more does he like me or does he whant to be friends PLEASE help me o should i ask him out or what for him i am 14 if that helps
Victor,
My guy friend tottally likes my friend . Im crushed my friend doesnt like him . So it makes it harder . Whenever i talk to him he just talks about HER !! I love my best friend like a sister . But is it wrong to think i hate her ??! Victor i gotta stop this becuse i think i may love this guy and i dont want it to end ! How can i tell him i like him ??! And that my friend doesnt ??!
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My guy friend tottally likes my friend . Im crushed my friend doesnt like him . So it makes it harder . Whenever i talk to him he just talks about HER !! I love my best friend like a sister . But is it wrong to think i hate her ??! Victor i gotta stop this becuse i think i may love this guy and i dont want it to end ! How can i tell him i like him ??! And that my friend doesnt ??!
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