Vanessa, 22, from Sydney, Australia asks: I wrote a couple of emails to a guy that I like that's in a band, complimenting him on his music etc. He wrote back and said, come up and say hi sometime. I'm pretty shy so I haven't done that, neither has he, but whenever I see him at a gig, I notice him looking at me, and he stands in front of me at times, so he blocks my view of the band playing. Is he not interested or just shy?

VictorM's advice: I'm going to assume that somehow he knows what you look like even though you just emailed him. Otherwise, how would he know who you are?

Well, shyness could be a reason he has not approached you. It's a very common trait among performers. But I don't know if that's the reason. After all, he said for you to "come up and say hi", so clearly the ball is on your court. It's up to you to make the move. Unless you approach him he could be thinking you lost interest.

Is he interested in you? I have no idea. There is a certain ego with being a band member, particularly when they are on stage. And knowing that you like him frees him to play games with you. But I'm sure you're not the only one sending him emails about his music and how much they like him. So I have no idea what would make you think that you stand out from all the other girls.

I know it's hard if you're shy, but you have to take one small step. Just walk up to him and say Hi. If you feel tongue-tied, just say you don't want to take too much of his time but when he's free to stop by and say hello. There. Now the ball is on his court. If he comes by, you know he's interested. I have no doubt you two will find plenty to talk about.

But depending on how popular the band is, don't be surprised if he doesn't know who you are. This reminds me of the Lynyrd Skynyrd song:

Won't you come upstairs girl
And have a drink of champagne

What's your name, little girl?
What's your name?

9 o'clock the next day
And I'm ready to go
I got six hundred miles to ride
To do one more show
Can I get you a taxi home?
It sure was grand
When I come back here next year
I wanna see you again

What was your name, little girl?
What's your name?