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Monday, January 23, 2006
I like him and he likes me
Ada, 19, from Manchester, asks: I met this guy in a club who is a friend of a very good friend of mine. I found him very attractive. We talked a lot in the club and we even kissed. I like him and he likes me and I've talked to him everyday since then but he says that he doesn't want a relationship because he's bad with relationships. What should I do because I really like this guy?
VictorM's advice: I am a firm believer that when it comes to relationships, the couple should move at the pace of the slowest one. He may have said he's bad with relationships because he's not sure about you yet, maybe he has a girlfriend (can I assume you know he doesn't?), maybe there are other girls he has met at the club. Whatever the situation, keep talking to him, keep dazzling him with your charm, and above all else, relax and get to know him more before you bring up the dreaded "R" word.
If he likes you, you will not lose him by going slow; but push him and he migh fly away.
VictorM's advice: I am a firm believer that when it comes to relationships, the couple should move at the pace of the slowest one. He may have said he's bad with relationships because he's not sure about you yet, maybe he has a girlfriend (can I assume you know he doesn't?), maybe there are other girls he has met at the club. Whatever the situation, keep talking to him, keep dazzling him with your charm, and above all else, relax and get to know him more before you bring up the dreaded "R" word.
If he likes you, you will not lose him by going slow; but push him and he migh fly away.
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Leave him be. Don't push him... let him control what happens. Obviously he doesn't want to be with you at the moment. Maybe months down the road he'll change his mind. Otherwise... let it go. You'll find another person you're attracted to. If not, I'm single.
Go out, date other people, and stay buddy buddy with this guy. Don't mention the other guys TOO much. But don't wait around for him.
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