rachael, 13, from seattle asks: A couple years ago, I really liked this one guy in my class. The word got out about it and he quickly found out. It turned out that he liked me too. We both liked each other a lot. But he would call me a lot and I wasn't really ready to be in like, a relationship with him so I told him to stop calling me and that pretty much ended it. I felt bad, but I was kinda uncomfortable. The next couple years we avoided each other and it was really awkward to be around him. Then he went to the other middle school in our district and I haven't seen him since. I have never regretted something so much and I want to see him again but I broke his heart and I don't think he wants to see me. What should I do let him know that I miss him and want to hang out with him again?

VictorM's advice: If my math is right, you were 11 when this happened. By the way, I think it's great you told him to stop calling since you felt uncomfortable. That takes guts.

You say you don't think he wants to see you, but how do you know? I wouldn't be so sure. It's possible he still carries a grudge but the odds are that he'd love to talk to you again. You two probably will laugh about the things you said when you were 11.

It's time to use those guts again and reach out to him. Say hello, tell him you miss talking to him, and you'd like to hang out. He most likely will say: great! But if he turns you down you two will just be even and you'll know that he's not worth worrying about again.

No matter how it turns out, you get to be right twice: once for speaking up for yourself and once for trying to make amends.