Michelle, 21, from atlanta, asks: I am friends with this guy who is in a long term, long distance relationship (they see each other about every 6 weeks for a weekend or so, for the past 3 or 4 years). I like him, but because of the girlfriend I have never really flirted or anything with him. Nonetheless, all of our friends make fun of the fact that he and I are "dating", and he all of a sudden won't go out with me alone because he feels guilty. The other night, I was mildly intoxicated (still fully coherent and everything) and he was completely sober. I was entirely platonic, and he initiated hooking up with me, and spent the night. The next day we didn't really talk about it, but he said he felt guilty (he hasn't ever cheated before). I like this guy, which is not so good. How should I interpret this hookup, and what should I do about it now, if anything?

VictorM's advice: That hookup meant nothing at all. Any guy, at any time, can have what Pink Floyd calls a "momentary lapse of reason". He likes you, you were there, the stars were aligned, blah blah. The next day, it's all over and it means nothing. Long distance relationships are hell, I tell ya!

Guys like him are hard to find. He respects his girlfriend, he respects you, so the least you can do his respect him too. Do not flirt. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't be the best friend you can be and who knows... he may realize that you're a wonderful girl and hey, if things change between them... there you are. But don't hold your breath.