Julie, 22, from Kentucky, asks: I was with my fiance for 4 years. We broke up for 3 months. He lied for the 9 months we have been back together. He slept with a girl and she had a baby while doing drugs and we don't know if it is his or not. What should I do?

VictorM's advice: First things first. He needs to find out if he is the father. In this day and age, that's easy. Second, if it is his baby he better be prepared to support the child.

Now, back to you. When you said he lied for nine months, I assume you mean he never told you he slept with a girl during the 3 months you weren't together. During those 3 months he was free to do whatever he wanted. But clearly, there are trust issues between you two.

I don't know why you two broke up in the first place. My guess is that you will break up again for that same reason, whatever it was. You know, when a couple has enough problems to cause a breakup, things don't get fixed by magic. I'm not saying it can't be done, but at least one of the two has to go through some significant changes. I doubt very much this happened here.

That child and the girl on drugs are his problems -- don't make them yours. If you're on the rocks with this guy, free yourself from him before you get involved in the mess he created.