ashleigh, 22, from scotland asks: I have been dating a new guy for 3 months and I'm not sure we will last. He's a lot more outgoing than me and is in a band. He plays gigs and parties a lot. I keep thinking about the future and worry that we may just be too different. Can this work?

VictorM's advice: Sure it can work, if you accept your differences and can live with them. But if it bothers you that he parties, if you get jealous, or if you want him to stop playing or going out, then life will be hell for both of you and you're better off ending it now.

But couples who have different levels of energy for different things can be quite happy together if they let each other be and are supportive of the other's activities. He can be a great source of comfort for when you want more excitment in your life, and you can be likewise to him when he wants some calm.

The thing you didn't say, but I wonder if you meant it, is whether he's too irresponsible. Because that is a totally different story. Yeah, there is a time to go a little crazy, and certainly the 20's is a good time, but one can be a partier and still be responsible and attentive. If he's not, well, then he's a work in progress and no one knows how he will turn out.

But come on, if he's a Scot, what do you expect? :)