Terika, 18 from Ohio asks:

My boyfriend and I have been going out for 6 mo. I love him to death. But when I want to hang out with my friends I take him with me because he wants to go and, I have told him when ever he wants to hang out with his friends just tell me and go. But, he thinks he has to lie to me about everything and he doesn't because, I really don't deserve it I haven't ever lied to him. Like, his dad drives a big truck and my boyfriend Shawn, helps him work on it. But, Shawn told me one day he was going to help his dad and after he got finished he would come to my house but he never did. And, the next day was my birthday party (big18) and he didn't show up. It hurt me so bad. And, I confronted him and he said he was sorry and he was hanging out with his friends. He said that he thought that it would hurt my feelings. But, it didn't until I found out that he was HIGH that whole time. I DO NOT do drugs and I don't want to be associated to them I don't know how to talk to him about this fight. I really need help. He causes fights between us all the times but never this bad. I feel like he feels obligated to lie to me. He does drugs be hind my back and also this guy he hangs out with is my ex-boyfriend's friend also. And, he kids, but he says I'm like adoorknob everyone’s had a turn. But, I was with my ex for almost 3 years and now my boyfriend for a half a year. Those are the only two people I have been with. And, it pains me that he hangs out with someone that makes me fell so bad.Please help!!!

Emilie’s Advice:

Oh, dear. Ok, WHY do you “love him to death”?? It doesn’t even appear you have anything in common! He lies, you don’t. He does drugs, you don’t. You value the relationship, he doesn’t. Terika, I don’t mean to be harsh, but I can’t find a single positive thing about your relationship with your boyfriend. Even if there is a ray of light in there somewhere, it’s obviously overshadowed by all the negative things. You need to find someone who shares your views and values. There’s nothing admirable about trying to stay with someone who is wrong for you in almost every way. You sound like a lovely young lady who deserves an equally nice young man to spend your time with. All you have to do is get rid of the loser you are currently attached to!