Shantel, 17, from co asks: Am I stupid or am I just blind? So everybody constantly tells me that my boyfriend doesn't treat me right. In fact their exact words are that he treats me like shit. And you would think that if others that just observe things could recognize that and bring it to my attention that I would feel the same way. But as crazy as it may sound I don't think that he treats me like shit. Is it because I love him so much that I don't want to see that he really is treating me like shit? I mean, he makes me so damn mad, but I just don't know. I need to know what a guy thinks. A real guys point of view.

VictorM's advice: If you don't think he treats you like shit, then he doesn't treat you like shit. It's that simple. Could you be blind to obvious flaws in his character? Sure, it happens all the time. But you have to be the one to discover those, not your friends.

So your boyfriend gets you mad. Maybe that says more about your temper than it says about his behavior. Maybe what you call love is just habit. Maybe aggravation is something you can't live without and he supplies plenty of that.

Maybe people around you are sick and tired of you complaining about him (I'm assuming you do). You should consider stopping. They are just being good friends if they point out the obvious. I mean, they wouldn't be good friends unless they tried to open your eyes. If this is the case, try to find someone else to vent about boyfriend so as not to aggravate your friends (but then again, aggravating them could be how you get by.)

You know, you really should examine how often during your day aggravation -- either yours or those around you -- is part of your life. I believe people are addicted to their behavior and they need a fix once in a while; your addition could be anger. And so you piss off your boyfriend, who then pisses you off, and then you complain to those around you to the point that it pisses them off, then you get pissed off at them. It's a vicious cycle and you, not your boyfriend and not your friends, are the ones at the center of it.

I don't think your situation involves stupidity. You could just be an example of two wrongs that somehow get along by constantly feeding each others needs, even if the needs are negative ones. Like Bonnie and Clyde. Like Whitney and Bobby. Like Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee.