Thursday, December 22, 2005
Why doesn't she listen?
Anthony, 18 from New York asks:
I’ve been in a relationship for 16 months. Every time something’s bothering me, be it college or work or something, she doesn’t want to hear it. But if the shoe is on the other foot, I always listen to her no matter what. Why doesn’t she ever listen to me?
Emilie’s Advice:
My advice is usually pretty simple. Confront the problem then re-evaluate the situation. Tell her how you feel and explain why you need her to listen to you. Maybe she doesn’t realize she’s doing it. Give her a chance to fix the problem. But you may soon realize that she just doesn’t care. There’s no reason to stay in a one-sided relationship where you give and she takes. It has to go both ways. You’re young and shouldn’t feel the need to settle for anything.
