Rose, 28 from PA asks:

I have a fiancé. He says he would never lie to me. Recently he started drinking (again). One night he went out without letting me know and came home at 7 in the morning the next day. I can't ask him what he did or where he was. He only tells me nothing happened and to leave him alone. When friends are there he tells them what a great night he had. What do you think of him? Would you stay with somebody like this? (This is not the first time he’s done this.)

Emilie’s Advice:

It sounds like you already know the answer. He’s drinking, stays out all night and refuses to tell you where he is. You “can’t” ask him about it (which indicates to me that you are afraid of him). What do I think of him? I think he sounds like a jerk. No, I would not stay with someone who stayed out all night, makes you feel like you have no right to ask about it, then proceeds to tell his friends that he had a great night out. Oh, and if this is not the first time you can be sure it won’t be the last. My advice is to cancel the wedding and move on with your life. If you have a hard time doing this, write a “Pro and Con” list about your relationship. When you see in writing that his bad qualities outweigh his good ones, that might help you realize it’s time to say goodbye.