Tracy, 20, from Maine, asks: Me and my boyfriend have been together now for over 2 years. I am so much in love with him and he says he is too, and we recently had a child. But things aren't what they should be. I have caught him in so many small lies that keep becoming more often, and the lies he tells is to cover him up for something he has or hasn't done. Also he seems to be addicted to his computer, but yet very secretive about what he is doing. Actually he is very secretive about everything! I know he has a fetish with porn, and i guess it seems to be taking my place. We are no longer close anymore and I have tried to talk to him about it, and now he seems like he is "pretending" to be close to me at times. I am so hurt and confused and I don't want to leave him if it's something that can be fixed. Is it too far gone or are things still fixable?

VictorM's advice: Assuming he's around your age, don't even think about leaving. You haven't said anything that suggest you can't fix this relationship.

Having a child is a big deal. Some of his "small lies" may reflect nothing more than someone who hasn't grown-up yet. Spending too much time on the computer also suggest a form of escape from the pressures that he's not yet ready to handle.

My advice is give him some slack for sometime. He needs to adjust to being a father and having a family. If you pressure him, he'll retreat even more to the world he knows best -- secrecy, computer, porn. Maybe it's time to treat him, for a little bit, like your second child and exercise some patience.

Will he ever come around? I don't know, but that he even "pretends" to be close when you talk to him about it is a good sign. He's just trapped between childhood and adulthood. Let him have one; he might embrace the other.