Wednesday, December 21, 2005
Too young to get engaged?
Joseph, 17 from Erie, Pennsylvania asks:
I have been dating my girlfriend for 8 months. I am very deeply in love with her. I asked her to marry me and she did say yes. But was I wrong?
Emilie’s Advice:
It’s nice to know you love her so much and you are committed to her. But were you wrong to get engaged at age 17? Yes. You just learned to drive, so it’s kind of hard to believe that you (or she) would be ready to make such a big decision yet. Maybe in five or six years you’ll still be in love and want to get married. But I really doubt it. People change a lot from their teenage years to their mid twenties and for a GOOD reason! That’s when you get to learn who you are and what you want in life. Very few people like the same music, let alone the same people. You don’t have to break up with her, but let her know that you’ve realized that both of you are too young to be engaged. She may even surprise you and agree.
I have been dating my girlfriend for 8 months. I am very deeply in love with her. I asked her to marry me and she did say yes. But was I wrong?
Emilie’s Advice:
It’s nice to know you love her so much and you are committed to her. But were you wrong to get engaged at age 17? Yes. You just learned to drive, so it’s kind of hard to believe that you (or she) would be ready to make such a big decision yet. Maybe in five or six years you’ll still be in love and want to get married. But I really doubt it. People change a lot from their teenage years to their mid twenties and for a GOOD reason! That’s when you get to learn who you are and what you want in life. Very few people like the same music, let alone the same people. You don’t have to break up with her, but let her know that you’ve realized that both of you are too young to be engaged. She may even surprise you and agree.
