Shamari, 30, from texas, asks: I am involved in a relationship that has lasted for almost 3 years. He is in another city now to continue his education. I support him and love him very much. However, he calls me maybe twice a day and I guess with being apart I thought the calls would increase. Is there anything I can do to make the distance not seem that far? I want to be there without being there. I mean, what is he likely thinking since he is not here with me?

VictorM's advice: He calls you twice a day and you expect more? Twice a day may be a world record for a guy. Check the Guinness Book of World Records -- his name might be there.

I think a long distance relationship is harder on a guy because by nature we're more into physical contact. But don't think that phone calls is the next best thing -- they are not! Sitting by a phone, most of the time carrying on small talk, is not a guy's idea of fun times.

For a guy, there is no substitute for the real thing: smooth skin to caress and wonderful scent to enjoy. Being away from you is hard for him. The best you can do is plan some intermittent visits. If you can't be with him or visit, then the next best thing you can do is not annoy him with demands for phone calls.

And don't make the mistake of sending risque pictures or movies of yourself -- they may help for a few minutes but that's it. It's not worth the risk of them winding up on the internet if you two break up.