Victoria, 20, from Champaign, asks: I am a junior in college and I am in a relationship with a senior. He has been interviewing for jobs and pretty much getting really ready to grow up. We have been together for 9 months and I am not even ready about getting very serious because I don't think I want to be with him for the rest of my life. I think this is okay but it seems as if he and everyone around me think that we have been together for a significant amount of time and because college is almost over for him, I should be very committed and it should be very serious between us. I do not want this kind of a relationship. He is the best boyfriend I have ever had but I don't think it can go any farther if he is so serious. He loves me and I don't love him. I don't know if I should give myself a few more months or just end it now because I probably wont ever feel that strongly about him. I guess what I am asking is if I should be feeling that way already if I am ever going to feel that way. And if I should end it, how do you break up with someone who is so wonderful?

VictorM's advice: End it now. Do not wait. You're wasting your time and his. And you're not doing him any favors by misleading him, which is what you're doing now.

You break up by making it short and direct. No weepy speeches, do NOT talk about how good he is -- trust me, that doesn't help -- and most of all don't be vague. Talk in first person... "I don't feel... I don't think... I don't want... blah." Then walk away. How will he react? You don't know and you can't control it. All you can do is go about your life.

And don't feel bad. You're not in love with him. Stuff happens.